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I don't think this is quite PND but could it turn into it?

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BabyBluesorNot · 12/12/2020 14:40

Had a beautiful DC2 a couple of weeks ago and have wonderful 2 year old DC1 at home with me. Love them both more than anything and they are both just amazing. We've got into a reasonable routine getting out and about to DC1's (mostly outdoor!) activities and walking etc so are out a lot and so far am managing fine with housework and cooking etc too (will get harder as DC2 gets more aware so making most of it!) Usual newborn sleep deprivation going on but as DC1 only slept through a few months ago I'm quite used to it!

I feel very happy with our situation as know how lucky we are but I just feel very flat, I've been doing lots of Christmas stuff with DC1 today like making mince pies and decorating and just don't feel the Christmas joy like I always do, and I feel like I'm a bit of an empty useless mum even though I can't describe why I'd think that! I suppose I expected the newborn stage to be a happy bubble as with DC1 but appreciate its very different as not seeing friends and family like we were then.

I clearly don't have PND as functioning fine but I'm surprised to feel so constantly flat and low, and just want to see if there's anything I can do to nip it in the bud as want to be at my best for the DC. Also used to eat very healthily and having a real battle to keep it up (want to mostly as breastfeeding and want to have right nutrients) as I've gone from craving healthy things to just wanting rubbish.

I assume all of this is hormonal, will it just pass? Not complaining at all just as I say want to keep an eye on things so that it doesn't develop into something more! I worry that DH will be bored over Christmas with just me and the DC etc and wherever I'll be entertaining enough.. I've never felt like that before!

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omg35 · 12/12/2020 14:51

I don't know if it's hormonal as much as situational. This has been a god awful year for lots of us and I feel really flat about Xmas this year and wish it were over already. Could just be the background stuff going on affecting you or the sleep deprivation etc. Or it could develop into pnd but if you're aware of this and keeping an eye it should resolve sooner

BabyBluesorNot · 12/12/2020 15:03

Maybe it is just situational, definitely had some low moments over last year but probably was buoyed by the excitement of knowing a baby would be coming and that distracted me. Definitely not moaning about it as just feeling low rather than depressed but it has surprised me a little as have been quite regimented about getting out, exercising, eating healthily etc even in first trimester in first lockdown feeling terrible to try to keep spirits up.

Do miss seeing friends and family though and maybe that's the root of it

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Ilovesausages · 12/12/2020 15:05

Have you talked to your DH about how you feel?

Sounds like you definitely need to keep an eye on it.

If it was PND, what would you do differently?

Can you find some time to focus on yourself for a little while?

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