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Does bringing someone else down ever make you feel better?

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HallFloor · 12/12/2020 11:44

The advice on MN often seems to be ways to get even, from a smart comment to bring an over confident child back down to earth, to a way to undermine a colleague whose has some "unfair" success, to upsetting an interfering MIL, the advice always includes some way to get even.

Having done that, does it ever make you feel better?

I once had some good advice when I learned that a colleague was paid more than me for the same job. It was because his previous job was redundant and he'd been given protected pay when accepting a lower role. I was better at the job and paid a lot less. Yes, very unfair, but how would him earning less have improved my life?

  • How does the cocky child having their confidence dented make your child happier?
  • How does making a colleague look bad make me look better?
  • How does upsetting MIL get her to behave better towards me?
  • Why does making anyone unhappy, make me feel better about myself?
OP posts:
Poppyolive90 · 12/12/2020 11:47

No, it has always just made me beat myself up further for being a bad person

HallFloor · 12/12/2020 11:55

Yes, so why is it such common advice?. Even if the action is "justified" it isn't going to help the OP.

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Coldhandscoldheart · 12/12/2020 11:58

I would doubt much of the advice is serious or something that the adviser would actually do. But sometimes it’s fun to contemplate & sometimes it lightens a thread a bit.

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