What has happened to me

[blueygreennn]

I looked in the mirror this morning after putting my quite greasy hair in a bun, and putting the worlds ugliest frumpiest jumper over an old crappy t shirt and just thought wtf has happened.

Im fat and dont care about how i look (apart from right now as making this post)

A few years ago i wouldnt even go to the corner shop without brows and mascara done at least now its not a bit of makeup, ugly glasses, sometimes dont shower before school run.

Am i depressed, is this normal, im only 33 with 1 child. Some of the older school mums with more kids are looking 10x better. Not that its a competition.

I hate saying i've let myself go, as i dont think i let this happen, its just happened.

Has anyone been here and gotten out of it?

Yes. I go through phases of this when I get very busy at work or have other stuff on my mind. It does take a conscious effort of will to get out of the rut but it's worth it. I don't usually bother with makeup as I don't feel any different with or without it, but certainly I feel so much more awake and alert by showering, drying my hair, putting in contacts, and putting on "real" clothes (can be as basic as a jumper and jeans, but definitely not something that could double as PJs).

I would start small - I find that the shower is the key, if I get up and get straight in the shower everything flows well from there. I also massively streamlined getting ready - I can be in and out of the shower, dressed and hair blow-dried in under 15 mins which makes it less of a time sink to be avoided by staying in PJs.

I was in a bad habit of showering at night, staying up too late drying my hair, hitting snooze, rushing downstairs in leggings and a sweatshirt to do breakfast for the kids, doing the school run in leggings with a big coat over all, then getting straight on with work without showering. It wasn't great so the first step was not showering in the evening, going to bed early, then getting straight up and showering in the morning.

So try going to bed early and showering tomorrow, and see how you get on Then do it again the next day...and the next... You can do it!!

Watching with interest because I feel like this!

Me too. Good plan to get in shower first thing!

Just recently realised how much I've let myself go this year. Hair is always scraped back in a bun when I always used to straighten it, big jumper over T-shirt and jog bottoms instead of nice jeans and a top. I'd almost forgotten how to apply makeup until today when a friend asked if I'd like to meet in town and I realised how much of a train wreck I looked! I've never been massively sociable but I always made an effort. So today I actually spent a little while on looking more like someone I recognise in the mirror as me! It's easy to forget yourself when you're busy with work and kids.

I've really let things slide since the first lockdown.

Life has been monumentally complicated on both Covid and other levels but when I reached the point that the only difference between loungewear and outside clothes was whether or not I was wearing underwear...

I have graduated to jeans most days now. Tomorrow I am meeting a friend so will have to do the whole properly getting ready thing for the first time in a couple of months.

At least I already know what my new year's resolution is.

I go through phases like this too. Definitely agree with a shower as soon as you’re up. Usually after that, I’ll come downstairs, sorts kids breakfasts and packed lunches, lay their clothes out and then I’ll go and dry my hair, get dressed into not joggers, and I have a 5 min make up routine.
I generally do bb cream, draw in some eyebrows, blusher and some powder. I don’t do mascara as I can’t be bothered faffing and taking it off at 11pm as I’ve inevitably forgotten to do it earlier!
It’s amazing how much better I feel when I look in the mirror and don’t immediately feel down on myself.

I quite like being like this. Its freeing though I think it's down to my age now.