Help! If you have been pregnant over 40 come and talk to me

[Veryoldandpreggers]

Good morning

I’ve just this morning found out I’m pregnant at 43. I’m stunned. I feel so old and achy a lot of the time and can’t imagine getting through this easily. We had one child when I was 27 and one at 30. Then I got the coil which has been safely in place ever since. My husband is 49.

If you had a baby in your 40s what was the pregnancy like? And if you don’t mind sharing exactly how old you and your partner were.

Many thanks

@DownWhichOfLate never mind, I shouldn't have mentioned it. Not very relevant to OP's post and I don't want to derail.

If you mean that your husband kicked one of your children - that is horrendous! Yes, it’s a derail, but you need to do something about that!

Hi I am currently 9 weeks pregnant with baby number 5....I am 42 my husband is 35. . I have a 21 year old , 10 year old, 5 year old and 4 year old it was a surprise and a shock to discover I was pregnant again please don't worry yes your older but as long as you take things slowly and rest as much as possible you will be fine if you listen to horror stories you will get yourself all worked up even doctors can make you feel bad...when telling my doctor I didn't know whether to laugh or cry ... he tells me wow 42 that brings all sorts of problems plus having so many children already plus being over weight having a high bmi, etc...gee thanks 😆 I highly recommend looking into hypnobirthing anything that can help relax is definitely worth a try, our bodies are amazing miracles they know exactly what to do we just have to trust them ..

A surprise pregnancy at 45. Didn't even know I was pregnant for three months. No symptoms at all until late in pregnancy. Placenta was at the front. So didn't even feel kicking or movement until later in pregnancy.

I felt pretty good, didn't show until around 30 weeks. Then I felt my age and got very tired quickly.

As I was older they delivered the baby at 39 weeks because the risk of the placenta deteriorating after that. I could have refused and delivered naturally like my other births but to be honest I was done by then.

My husband is 53. So he was as shocked to be doing all this again as me. Poor sod!

Had my youngest at 44.5. Easy pregnancy, birth etc, felt really goos. She is now 15.5, I am almost 60, post menopausal and really starting to feel my age.

Not my story but my great grandmother's, and I was lucky enough to have her in my life until I was in my 20's, so she told me about a great many things.

She was 49, had 9 children, and thought she was in menopause after not having a period for a year. This was in the late 1940's. Her youngest was 11, my grandmother, her eldest, was 24.

Turns out she was 6 months pregnant and not in menopause after visiting the doctor due to not feeling well. She had no pregnancy symptoms as she had with the other 9 so had no idea she was pregnant.

Her pregnancy was easy, but she did say dealing with the baby was a massive struggle at her age. She was 50 when her last, a boy, was born, My grandmother, her daughter, gave birth to my mum when this baby was 2 months old. My grandmother had already had 2 children before her mum had her last baby. My mum is two months younger than her uncle. Crazy, funny stuff.

Basically, I think dealing with an infant can be a lot harder when you're older.

42 (me) and 43. Pregnancy was hard as I was sick for a lot of it and retained a lot of fluid. But baby was a dream and I didn't feel tired.

It was a shock to be pregnant. I'd accepted I couldn't have children so it was surreal when I found out I was expecting.

Best thing that's ever happened to me.

Congratulations and good luck. I had my second at 41, much easier pregnancy than my first at 29 but had to have a Caesarian in the end. I was a bit more tired with sleepless nights etc but otherwise it’s been fantastic. He’s 15 now and both myself and my partner feel blessed to have a child in the house at our age (56 and 62).

I found out 2 weeks ago that I'm pregnant with our 4th (if this one sticks and I don't mc like I have done 3 times). I am 42 in a few weeks and am due around July/August time. Dh is 49.