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I was a bit surprised to hear Brian McFadden and his Partner are expecting

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Lardlizard · 08/12/2020 21:36

And went though ivf
Of course I wish them well, esp her but it seems surprising how non involved he was with his dds

I suppose everyone deserves a second chance

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Chosennonesneakymincepie · 08/12/2020 21:38

I thought he was very involved with his DD 🤔 hasn't his eldest Molly lived in Ireland with him and attended college over there?

purpledagger · 08/12/2020 21:41

I understood that BF spent much off his time in Australia, So it was his parents who were responsible for the children for most of the time.

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Lardlizard · 08/12/2020 21:44

I think he was absent for about 8 years, when he split with Kerry then when he split with delta when the oldest molly was almost ten got back in their lives, he was living in Australia when all that mark Croft and drug use was happening and was widely publicised but stayed in Australia

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PurpleMustang · 08/12/2020 21:46

Absent for 8 years is a bloody long time in a childhood. Like half of a childhood if you count to 16 yrs

Chosennonesneakymincepie · 08/12/2020 21:47

Ah right! Didn't raise that!

Chosennonesneakymincepie · 08/12/2020 21:47

realise

BeneficiaryMadness · 08/12/2020 21:50

Kerry? U ok hun?

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Lardlizard · 08/12/2020 22:18

🤣

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Hiccupiscal · 09/12/2020 09:24

Not every story is straight forward.

I have friend who hasn't seen his children for years, the mother made thier life so difficult and miserable and he couldn't afford to fight it anymore.
He left and met my friend, they will be going through ivf to try for a child, some years later.

If successful he will make a wonderful father and a lovely family, I am sure, he adores his other children and it hurts that it had been such a battle to try and access them.

In the end he stopped fighting for them because it wasnt good for the child's mental health, parents arguing about access, being moved from pillar to post, endless mediation etc.

My point is, you never know the actual situation, especially, so you cannot judge, and nor is it any of your business.

tyrannosaurustrip · 09/12/2020 09:29

@Chosennonesneakymincepie my understanding is his parents have always been very involved, and she lives with them, i.e. her grandparents. I don't think Brian himself has lived in Ireland in a long time, certainly not for most of their childhoods: he moved to Australia while the children were with Kerry and it sounds like he effectively outsourced a lot of visitation to his parents.

I've always felt quite sorry for Kerry, from the outside: I wouldn't understand the decision to move to the other side of the world with children at those ages, especially given their uncertain home life. He clearly has incredibly stable and loving parents himself which sort of gives him a lot less excuse for being absent IMO.

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Lardlizard · 09/12/2020 10:53

Well Brian and his partner sold the “story” to ok magazine, so tbf they do kinda put it all out there for the public

I do just feel for Kerry as she’s made a bad choices but she’s had a rough life
And I feel sorry for the girls

Anyway I do wish them all well
And what would the world be like if nobody ever got a second chance

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Deadringer · 09/12/2020 10:55

Well we do know the situation. He moved to the other side of the world and he certainly could have afforded to fight for custody, and possibly even might have won, especially with the shitshow that was/is Kerry's life. Those are facts, the whys and wherefores we don't know.

unmarkedbythat · 09/12/2020 10:56

I have a probably quite unreasonable dislike of this man, who seems to have come out of everything smelling of roses and being sympathised with, without ever actually doing anything other than impregnating women and fucking off to live his life whilst other women pick up the pieces.

SparklingLime · 09/12/2020 10:57

He might get a second chance, but his kids don’t get a second chance at a decent childhood. With a dad present in their lives.

Mrsjayy · 09/12/2020 10:57

The grandparents were very involved in the kids lives early on they had to be (i think) they did visit Australia . Why shouldn't they have a baby ?

TheWitchwithNoName · 09/12/2020 11:02

**I have a probably quite unreasonable dislike of this man, who seems to have come out of everything smelling of roses and being sympathised with, without ever actually doing anything other than impregnating women and fucking off to live his life whilst other women pick up the pieces.

^this

RaspberryCoulis · 09/12/2020 11:04

@Lardlizard

I think he was absent for about 8 years, when he split with Kerry then when he split with delta when the oldest molly was almost ten got back in their lives, he was living in Australia when all that mark Croft and drug use was happening and was widely publicised but stayed in Australia
You know far too much about these people's lives.
Mrsjayy · 09/12/2020 11:06

Was Brian really sympathised with i thought he had strips torn off him at the time especially when he went to Australia and was with Delta Goodrum ?

unmarkedbythat · 09/12/2020 11:10

Yeah maybe, I don't know enough about it all, I just see an endless stream of disgust at and judgement of Kerry Katona and loads of simpering about poor Brian and how hard it all must have been for him. I'm sure there are people willing to point out that he seems to have been a selfish loser cock, and more power to them, the man seems such a fucking weasel to me!

Butterymuffin · 09/12/2020 11:13

I don't get how any parent could decide to move to the other side of the world away from their small children.

HmmSureJan · 09/12/2020 11:17

@unmarkedbythat

I have a probably quite unreasonable dislike of this man, who seems to have come out of everything smelling of roses and being sympathised with, without ever actually doing anything other than impregnating women and fucking off to live his life whilst other women pick up the pieces.
This.
Mrsjayy · 09/12/2020 11:19

At one point the Irish grandparents had custody and there was tuts of where is Bryan. I've just realised I know far to much about Brian Mcfaddens children Blush

MrsHuntGeneNotJeremyObviously · 09/12/2020 11:20

I find it very hard to understand how any parent can be happy living on the other side of the world to their children. Hell would freeze over before I voluntarily left mine - I would be constantly worrying about them and missing them. I could not just get on with my life.
I think Kerry Karina has done her best given her own background - I have no doubt that she loves her DC, but no one could say that the string of step fathers was a good thing for her children. But at least she was there and trying. Brian McFadden had the ability to be present and he chose not to. Parenting is not something you can legitimately delegate to your own parents imo, while you live in Australia.

HmmSureJan · 09/12/2020 11:20

@Butterymuffin

I don't get how any parent could decide to move to the other side of the world away from their small children.
My ex did and justified it to anyone who would listen that he decided to because I made it too difficult for him to see his children. I drawing boundaries around him bullying me and not letting him turn up drunk to see them then I guess I did,
OneForTheRoadThen · 09/12/2020 11:20

@unmarkedbythat

I have a probably quite unreasonable dislike of this man, who seems to have come out of everything smelling of roses and being sympathised with, without ever actually doing anything other than impregnating women and fucking off to live his life whilst other women pick up the pieces.
Yes. this.
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