Good evening, long time lurker, very occasional poster here. Does anyone relate to how I am feeling? I lost my mum last Christmas after nursing her at home due to a horrible battle with cancer. She was elderly in age but very, very active and my best friend. Since then I've been staying half the week with my dad as he's scared of being at home over night alone. On the days I don't stay i still call in on him for around an hour. Other siblings cover the other nights but they've made it clear that after Christmas they don't want to stay anymore as they've got their own lives / routines etc. They've said he needs to go into a residential home and that we will all have to have a conversation with him. I know that there's no way he would want this and that he wants to remain in his own home for as long as possible with family support.
I just feel totally fed up with everything. All they have to do is one night a week. They never go other than "their night", don't ring him etc. I do all the cleaning, shopping, financial stuff etc. I must add here that my dad doesn't have any care needs, it's just that he's lonely and worried about night time.
Our parents were married for 58 years. I just feel really let down by them as I know my dad will look to me to cover their nights and I simply cannot do anymore than what I am doing. Can anyone offer any advice?