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Baby bedtime routine

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CattyP89 · 07/12/2020 23:45

I’m just after some advice- I’ll try and keep it short.
I’m a first time mum and my DD is 6 months nearly 7. She’s done everything a baby should but we have no bedtime routine.
She still sleeps in with me and my partner but he goes to bed early (8ish) because of early starts meaning I can’t settle her in the room and leave her to learn to be independent as she can see he’s there. So we stay out in the living room (we live in a 2 bed flat) and I take her in when she’s asleep so my partner gets his sleep too. He says he’ll sleep on the sofa and we can go in the room but then it’s the same problem she will see me and won’t learn.
He soon moves onto nights so we can try and create a better routine and learn to sleep through the night so too it me having to rock her etc then but am I doing long term damage should I put her in a room on her own or should i relax and wait. Does everyone have bedtime down to a fine art? Should she be going through the night already?

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SuperSleepyBaby · 07/12/2020 23:52

Just relax about it and do what ever makes life easier now. It won’t make a difference long term - or you can change things later if needs be. Children’s habits change from month to month at that age - so what is normal and annoying now might be gone in a few weeks time - to be replaced by something else.

I have 4 children and they all eventually ended up sleeping in their own beds and sleeping though the night. One was age 1 when this happened. My son was 7 before he eventually stopped sleeping in my bed!

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CattyP89 · 07/12/2020 23:55

Thank you that means a lot to hear. I’ve been relaxed with everything sleeping just concerned me but that’s helped hearing how different your kids were Smile google can be your worse enemy sometimes Grin

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SuperSleepyBaby · 08/12/2020 00:06

My 2 year old stays up watching the news every night with my DH. She eventually drifts off to sleep when she is in a deep sleep he carries her upstairs and puts her in her cot. It makes life less stressful for everyone as we are not trying to get her to stay in her cot to fall asleep. And when she is older we can get her into a routine. That’s what works for us.

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CattyP89 · 08/12/2020 00:16

Yeah that’s what I do with my DD. I don’t want to stress her out and cause more issues down the line she’s happy and she does sleep just not as routinely as other people tell me she should or that theirs do. And as you say it works for you and this routine works for us. Smile

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MonkeyPuddle · 08/12/2020 00:34

You’re not doing anything wrong.
My mantra is fix a problem when it is one, not before.
My older child was in my room til he was 18mo, much older than most, it’s fine, worked for us. Wouldn’t work for others.
And it’s completely normal for a 6mo child to wake during the night, for a multitude of reasons.
She will change her routine as she pleases and as she develops and I think, as long as it’s not creating major issues, the easiest thing to do is built your routine around her.

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CattyP89 · 08/12/2020 00:50

Thank you again that’s made me feel a lot better it’s not a problem and we are getting along doing it this way just fine I’d just got it into my head when I was pregnant 6 months own room strict routine and it’s nothing like that all I care about it is her being happy and she is and all your responses have reassured me we are doing ok so thank you for taking the time to reply Smile

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SleepingStandingUp · 08/12/2020 00:55

Mine definitely weren't sleeping through at 6 months, we were still dream feeding them at midnight! They did go onto their own ribs at 6 months because they were in compact cots, needed bigger ones and we couldn't fit two in our room

Routine wise, they were falling asleep downstairs and being put to bed asleep pretty much up to 10 month. I'd say now it's a mix. Twin1 feel asleep in his chair so was put down asleep, T2 for 15 minutes Grace but was then put down awake with the last on his bottle. Some nights they're both sleep when they get bedded and occasionally they're both awake bit it's late.

Although my opinion might be worthless, as I don't the ultimate sin. They usually fall asleep to the TV lullabies because quite frankly they're hyper nearly 12 month old and they need something to help them unwind

MonkeyPuddle · 08/12/2020 01:00

Ah I’m glad you’re feeling better about it.
I bet your DD loves falling asleep with you, what better way to drift off but in the arms of your parent eh?

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CattyP89 · 08/12/2020 09:34

Definitely not a worthless opinion I have magic fm on for DD to help her settle and as I said it’s such a reassurance knowing I’m not alone so am no longer going to stress and just go with it. And definitely MonkeyPuddle and to be honest what better way for me then to have those extra cuddles I’m going to enjoy it before she’s a teenager and doesn’t want to know Grin thank you all again

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SleepingStandingUp · 08/12/2020 10:09

Definitely enjoy them. It's harder with subsequent children of you have them unless there's a big gap because there's so much pressure on your time. I rather enjoyed my cosleeping cuddles from 2.30 this morning as he was singing and I didn't want him waking his brother

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