DSIS in law desperate for us to see new baby

[WingingItSince1973]

My lovely sis in law and bil finally had their longed for baby a few weeks ago and despite being in tier 3 they really want visitors! I'm so desperately sad for them that covid has ruined what should be a wonderful family time for us all. They have formed a new baby bubble with inlaws but I know sil has asked us to visit and wear a mask. I know of some family members have visited quickly and cuddled baby, purely as they felt same as me that its so sad we can't enjoy our new family member but also worried about new parents mental health. Both wfh and only have midwives visits. I have been following the rules, even not seeing my parents that live just down the road from me. I have my dgs after school so we have contact with people plus my husband goes to work outside the home. I know sis in law is really sad but is that enough to bend the rules? We are all very close in my DH side of the family. Lots of us and plenty of children. I desperately miss then all but just can't bring myself to visit as i would hate to take anything with me. Anyone else been in same situation?

My friends have had babies during lockdown and we've gone to see them, they've been excited for visitors.

Why not just go out for walks or something if you don't want to go in the house

Going for a walk sounds like a good compromise

Yes, my dd had her first baby and we've visited in the summer before the current lockdown. We've been extremely careful - I haven't been in a shop since March I think - not because I'm especially vulnerable but we live rurally and I've just switched to getting everything delivered. So I've just naturally not had any contact with people. It felt fine, they initiated it - I'd never have pushed it - and everyone was careful and all went well and no-one's caught anything. Honestly I'd say do it, but you can only do what you feel ok about.

I would say to them that due to your family not being able to isolate you don't feel that you would be able to visit and cuddle their new baby as you don't want to put any of them at any risk, or the midwife/health visitor who will be visiting them. But that you would love to meet their little one briefly outside as you're so excited for them.

It is really difficult, isn't it?
I needed people when I had my first dc.
I want to follow all the rules, or guidance, but I think sometimes you have to make a judgement call yourself.

Could you compromise and say you will go down and admire the baby through the window or something ? I know it isn't the same.

Or even wear a clean, or disposable apron over your clothes along with a mask ?

I have huge sympathy with anyone who has had a baby in 2020

I would go OP, and take all precautions necessary.

Or, meeting them in the local park might be a way forward.

I'm going to pop round tomorrow with the gifts. I'll go into the back garden and chat through the patio doors. How preposterous is this situation. I never in a million years could have thought this would happen to us. Thanks so much for replying xxx