WWYD - Christmas present

[Dancemonkeydance]

WWYD is your grown up child didn't give you the time of day for over a year but got in touch at this time of year and you were 99.9% sure they were only doing it because Christmas and a "big" birthday coming up? Would you just be pleased to see and hear from your child or react differently?

I would pleased to hear from them but wouldn’t automatically get them a gift

I suppose it depends on the reason they haven't been in contact for a year - a big argument between the two of you, them being irresponsible, them going no contact because of your actions etc of course it could be any number of things and either persons fault but it is relevant

Prob have a long look at why they dont get in contact. Review how you treated them when they was a child. Be very happy to speak to then6

Should of mentioned in my OP, there's genuinely absolutely no reason for no contact. It's my husbands child, my husband is a wonderful father but unfortunately his child is just not a nice person. His mother was abusive to my DH when they were together and their child has turned out very similar to their mother.
I'm worrying for my DH just now and he's very pleased to see and hear from his child and is starting to buy quite lavish gifts. The reason that I'm worried is I'm confident as soon as birthday and Christmas is by he won't hear from child again and will be devastated. All family are pretty much saying the same but mindful of what we're saying to DH as it's his child at the end of the day and don't want to rain in his sunshine. This kind of behaviour is like a broken record, happens all the time and makes me so sad for DH

It's nothing to do with you.

I'd just be happy to hear from my dc.

@Clymene
Christ how long did it take you to come up with that helpful and kind addition to the thread! Thank you so much for your input, you're a Saint!

I’d be delighted to hear from my child. It’s unconditional love, especially if my child had been abused by their mother?!?

Sorry just reread and realised it wasn’t the child abused so I apologise for that bit.

Honestly though, whatever the circumstances I’d be pleased to hear from my child and would always have my arms open to them.

especially if my child had been abused by their mother?
Sorry if I wasn't clear, the mother was abusive to my DH, not their child.

I was just curious what other parents would do in the same circumstance where their child is only interested in seeing them for gifts

Honestly though, whatever the circumstances I’d be pleased to hear from my child and would always have my arms open to them.

As a mother myself I totally understand the unconditional love bit and doing anything to have them in your life. But I don't think I'd jump straight into buying lavish gifts if I knew they'd disappear without a thanks as soon as they'd received them. Though I suppose it's different saying what I'd do in theory and maybe I'd be the same if it came to it!