*semi light-hearted!* Do you ever wonder...

[Tweaker]

...what would happen to Christmas if you weren't around to make it happen...? I take great pleasure in perusing, choosing, wrapping gifts for my only dc. My DH (context: good man, works hard, kind etc.) doesn't take pleasure in any of this it would seem. Sometimes I think, if I died, what would my dd's Christmas and birthday be like? Would he pull it out the bag? I'm not so sure. I also work hard so it's not that there's an imbalance in that dept and yet this all seems to fall to me. However, I do enjoy it and don't mind for that reason. I've not asked him about it yet as I don't know what the point would be of opening up that particular can. This is not so much a rant, just musings!

My DH yes, absolutely. We are equal partners in every way. My exH though... well, that's partly why he's ex.

I’m the same as you OP, I do all the Christmas and birthday bits (again, DH is brilliant, hard worker, does most of the housework, good Dad etc etc). I have made him promise that if I die he has to pull out all the stops at Christmas and Birthdays like I do now, he has agreed!

@amymel2016 sounds be similar. Good idea - I'll get some promises with the threat of haunting if he doesn't comply. does your DH acknowledge this shortcoming? Not sure mine will...

He would do fine at the big stuff.
The little bits... He would probably ask his mother for help. Or my mother.

I trust the two Grandmother's could deal with any 'girl' stuff between them, or one of his female friends (period stuff, bra fittings etc)

Nothing. I know this because I stopped. Same with birthdays etc. The first year he got a bit arsey when he realised "we" hadn't sent any cards...

@Ghostlyglow I won't do a thing for his side of the family. That's his issue! I genuinely don't know what he'd do. My worry (during middle of the night existential crises) is that my dd would have bugger all...

I'm a LP so without me nothing would happen.

But if I hadn't bothered when I was with DH, nothing would have happened at all. And then he would have complained for the whole year about how I was lazy and ruined everything.

My OH loves buying presents and wrapping them up! And he’s always organised Christmas trips. So no worries on that score. However he wouldn’t have a bloomin clue how to deal with day to day stuff!!

I've made a joint pact with my sister that we will each pick up the slack should one of us die.

My dh is great and generous but just not bothered by Christmas and birthdays.

@Tweaker yeah, he’s well aware. He enjoys the day but doesn’t really enjoy choosing presents, organising parties, planning themes etc which I totally love doing. I love creating the magic and that’s what I want him to continue doing! (Crossing my fingers I don’t die!)

My dp was never really bothered by birthdays and Christmas but now we have kids he realises we make those days special for them.

If I wasnt here though, he wouldnt trawl through the internet looking for the "ideal" gift like I do, hed probably just go into town the day before end up spending a fortune on the newest toy/clothes

I think it is pretty normal, when you are half of a couple, to fall into doing different jobs when one enjoys (or doesn't mind) the job and one isn't interested (or hates) the job - same with all the mundane stuff throughout the year, from mowing the lawn to cooking the tea or shopping or cleaning or remembering when the MOT is due or decorating a room or seeking out the best prices for your utilities.

If one half of the couple weren't there, or were incapacitated in some way then you would just have to take on everything. If dc were little, I'd like to hope that other family and friends would support where they can, if dc were older, I'd expect them to take on things.
So, when My Mum died, my dsis and I helped my Dad get one or two presents for people he wanted to get something specific for, and he gave us each cash to get something for our own dc. He just took over things that my Mum had done, as a general rule though, as much as he could.