Rude friend

[JanieBP]

I’ve experienced the following and don’t really know how to deal with it at the time or subsequently.

1. Turn up at friend’s house at pre arranged time to be entertained by her husband/child for half an hour before she appears and says ‘sorry I was talking to my other friend/finishing my online yoga class’.

1. Arrange to meet for a walk and friend answers her phone at the start of the walk and talks to the other person for 3/4 of the walk.

1. Friend turns up for dinner and then says ‘sorry I have to finish some work, can I have your wifi code’ and then sits at the kitchen table for half an hour on her lap top.

I’m usually so shocked I don’t know what to say. Aside from dump the friendship WWYD?

She’s making it clear she has no time for you.

To be honest it doesn't sound like she values your company much.

The walk one especially would have hacked me off.

@Finfintytint she instigates at least 50% of the meet ups!

To instigate a meet up then piss about ignoring you is about sending the deliberate message that she doesn’t care about you. Ditch this knob.

I would tell her how you feel, be non-confrontational but clear that it's no longer working for you. Tell her you know her time is precious but yours is too and perhaps she'd like to arrange another 'date' when her attention will be undivided. I don't think you'll hear from her again after it but at least she'll know what she's done wrong.

She's not worth it, just ignore her

That is rude

Rude, arrogant and poor company.
Decline in future OP.

Blimey- she really is pushing her luck. She sounds very self obsessed. I definitely wouldn’t arrange anything 1 to 1 with her anymore - if she has any redeeming qualities, then maybe you could meet in a group post covid but I would leave it at that.

To be honest after description number 1 & 2, for me, there would not have been description number 3.
Absolutely not a friend of mine. Ditch.

1 and 3 forgivable. Especially 3 as it's work
Number 2 is plain rude

Beyond rude. Ditch.

She's treating you appallingly.

How rude.

I'd not contact her again. And if she asks you fir a meet up just decline.

If she pushes for a reason then be honest. It's hurtful and rude the way she takes your time for granted.

My sister was like this. For context, we suffered child abuse but I was the worst harmed and became the family scapegoat. I went no contact for over ten years but my sister found me and contacted me and we resumed contact. I went round for a night out to find her wet from the bath, flapping and still getting ready with me just expected to wait. Another time she came for dinner and spent the evening on her phone. I was upset by that as i cou6have been practicing my guitar and not sitting there listening to her read out and reply to texts. It showed me that I'm still nothing to her and firmly in my old place as not important. We are no longer in contact.

I’m usually so shocked I don’t know what to say. Aside from dump the friendship WWYD?

Well personally I'd do the obvious and tell her it's rude.