Noisy men

[Monkeymilkshake]

Help me with a discussion DH and I have been having please.
Are ALL men naturally noisier (aka crash into everything in the house, bangs doors...)
DH says all men do that and i need to get use to it.
I say surely it is possible to try and not make so much noise when you go about your normal life!
Examples:

• bangs bayhroom door every time (why not just shut it)
• next door can hear him unloading dishwasher (smashing plates everywhere, pots & pans...)

I could go on Does your DH/brother/dad/son do this too?

Yes. It's male entitlement, like man spreading. Fuckers.

Omg - I can’t stand my spouse emptying the dishwasher as he is careless and chips the w and plates....and the noise!

He’s useless at loading it too 🤯

No mine is not. Surely you must know not ALL men are?

Plus, smashing plates everywhere? How often is he smashing plates?

Loud laughter. Especially on TV when it's some thing fairly lighted like sport or cooking.

@luckyamy1986 that was my point :). You must have found a good one :)

@Pinotpleasure i have to hide upstairs when he does it

I don't know how much of it is inherent nature, or just different expectations on girls v boys when they're smaller.

My bloke makes SO much noise in the first hour of getting up. We have wooden floors upstairs and he STOMPS out of bed and into the bathroom every day. He also coughs and sneezes so loudly, it makes me flinch. While having his breakfast, he sniffs and coughs between mouthfuls.

On days when I'm tense or stressed, it's more than I can bear, and I have to shut doors or stuff earbuds in to drown it out. I used to feel the same way about the sound of my Dad eating, so could be more my issue than my partner's, but he is definitely louder than me.

Do you mention it to them? Ask them to be more quiet/gentle?

No mines quiet.

Think I'd be burying him under the patio if he woke me.up like that in the mornings

That. And they leave cupboard doors open. And kitchen drawers. Why not just shut it. Like seriously. Why not just shut it behind u.

I can’t sit next to mine when he eats without having the radio or the tv. And why die she have to eat really noisy food, sitting next to me while I’m trying to watch my tv.

I love the man to death but why.

@Monkeymilkshake, yes. I ask him to step more gently upstairs and tell him to blow his nose, but it really doesn’t sink in. It’s a default. Where’s the line between asking/reminding and nagging?

Stop generlising, my dad and brother and husband are not noisy.

No, not all men are noisy, or leave drawers etc open.

You don't have to settle for poor standards.

We’re both fairly quiet.

Sons a bit noisy at times, but thats a combination of only being five and having a hearing impairment.

DH is. And DS1 can be. DS2 is pretty good.

We've had conversations. I've said it's the sound equivalent of man spreading. He's starting to pay attention and I even saw him attempt to sneeze quietly recently.

I think many women have been brought up not to get in the way/annoy/make a fuss, when boys were not. DH really didn't know that shouting ah choo is not an essential part of sneezing, and that roaring isn't part of throwing up.

Covid has helped. Our previous distaste at noisy and 'breezy' sneezes has been intensified into disgust, and he's trying far harder.

@june2007 i know. My DH is the one telling me all men are like that. I'm the one saying it's not the case. His argument is that all men are like that, he cant help it. I'm saying he can help it.

My ex was noisy. Current one much quieter thankfully.
My adult son is a fairly quiet soul.

Yeah I think they generally are. This is because they're socialised to be less considerate and less self conscious of themselves, their bodies, the noise they make and the space they take up. So this results in them being more noisy. Doesn't mean it can't be unlearned though.