How do you tend to deal with it if a friends upset you ?

[Lardlizard]

What are your go to methods ?

Were you a twat? If so apologise properly.
Are they being a twat? If so give them a chance to apologise. If they don't leave it.

But to give them a Chance to apologise guess you’re gonna have to say what’s upset you
And that could come across badly

It absolutely depends on context here.

I give myself a bit of time to work out if I'm being the dick or they are. If I'm being the dick I apologise profusely. If I think they are being the dick I explain what they have done that has upset me, apologise if I'm in the wrong in anyway or have misinterpreted the situation, and explain that the friendship is important to me and ask how can we work through it. Unless the friendship has run its course anyway, or they have hurt me once too often, in which case I tell them that they have upset me but that I think it's best if we move on anyways as the friendship has run its course.

The breathing room is important to me though because I'm a hot head! I need to calm down long enough to act not react.

Spit it out op. What’s the issue

I tell them, generally, and then we have a conversation, and they either apologise if they feel they need to or don’t if they think they were justified, and I either accept it or come to terms with it....

Is it a trick question?

I’m not going to say on here a sit will come across as pathetic but I will take the advice to just sit on it for a few days and Think about it

Tell them they were an arse and they upset me and why. If they apologise sincerely I let it go. If they don't I reduce contact.

It’s impossible to say without knowing vaguely what’s happened.

Recently let things build up so the issue was bigger than it needed to be then said what I thought in the wrong way, lost two friends and although I apologised and its 'sorted', it isn't. I'm still annoyed about the outcome but too late to say anything, just distancing from each other without openly saying that.
I'd advise be honest say what the problem is when it arises unless its something and nothing to you.

I tell them.