Ex partner

[KarlyFitz88]

Hi everyone
Looking for some advise.
I broke up with my partner after two years. Things just weren't working for us anymore. I was no longer happy in the relationship and had started to fall out of love. I gradually realized that I enjoyed mine and my kids company on our own and I was much happier and have felt relieved since we split as there was alot of stress between us. My ex is really struggling. I have told him to not contact me as he kept trying to get me back, he then got nasty, saying mean things because he was drunk. He messaged me the next morning saying he was sorry. I have tried to keep my cool and calmly reply, saying it's over and for him to get space. He still has some things at my house as we live separately so I'm not sure what to do. I didn't reply to any of his messages yesterday, but today he has. Hes saying I went out on a date when we were seeing each other, but the date hes talking about, we were talking, not in a relationship and hadn't even met. I wasn't on a date. I had gone with a friend to see a film. He's saying I have lied to him the entire relationship, which is completely untrue. I don't understand why he's doing this?

Tell him he is entitled to believe what he likes but you both know the truth of it.

Get his belongings to him and then cease contact.

And the mean things he said were not because he was drunk. Just because he knows you no longer want or need him, his mean words are because he is acting like a child.

He is trying to change the history.

Box up his stuff, but it to one side, and ignore him.

Put his things in a box, deliver them to his doorstep, then block him.

Thing is he lives 70 miles away from me. I cant afford it now, but after Christmas I could pay for a removal van.

Why should you pay?

Tell him his belongings will be placed outside on xx day. (Screenshot if he reads it)

Tell him if his belongings have not been removed, you will take steps to dispose of them.

Am i in my rights to do that legally?

I do not know the legalities of it. I wasn’t suggesting you bin his belongings.

But telling him it is going to happen may well entice him to collect his things.

Yes that may work. I will message him tomorrow. I feel like he will use this to stay in contact and I just want to move on. Thank you all so much for giving me time and advice. Hope you all have a great Christmas.

I would keep messages to strictly about business to be sorted out between you, and not respond at all to anything else he brings up.
He is trying to get a reaction from you, because to him, it's better than the alternative, which he has come to realise is nothing.

All the time you respond, it gives him hope, because logic says that all couples have bad patches.

His behaviour since you have broken up just proves it was the right one. Good call! Move on and never look back. He sounds like bad news.

Put all his belongings in a box or bag and take it to one of him friends houses for him to collect. If not arrange to meet in a location away from your house in the day time to give him his belongings then block him or better still change your number.

Do not invite him back into your house to collect his things.

Good Luck x