Does anyone else feel they go through stronger ups and downs? Like too happy at compliments and too crushed at criticisms than others?

[Truly2435]

I always feel this compared to colleagues. They always seem fairly unaffected by compliments and criticisms aimed at them in meetings whereas I will feel elated and happy at being complimented in meeting but also very upset, stressed etc at criticisms (either of these things only affect me this much if done in public in front of others. Compliments and criticisms in private have little emotional impact on me)

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Yes exactly. I don't know which element I hate more, being so pleased by compliments or so upset by criticism. I didn't realise though until I read this!

Why does the fact that the complimenting or criticism is done in front of others affect the extent to which it delights or upsets you? I mean isn’t it a matter of whether you essentially think the complimenter or critic is right about your work/idea, rather than who’s in the vicinity?

@AuldWan glad someone can relate

@PigsInHeaven mainly because for compliments, anyone can say a nice thing to you in private and not mean it. It shows more genuineness when done in front of others (yes they could still not mean it but its less at risk of two faced-ness)

With criticism, it’s naturally more embarrassing done in front of tons of people compared to privately

I think if you’ve got solid self esteem you know you’re worth regardless of what others project onto you for their own reasons. This makes you quite stable. Navy’s work on your self worth.

Maybe not navy’s

Your not you’re

[quote Truly2435]@AuldWan glad someone can relate

@PigsInHeaven mainly because for compliments, anyone can say a nice thing to you in private and not mean it. It shows more genuineness when done in front of others (yes they could still not mean it but its less at risk of two faced-ness)

With criticism, it’s naturally more embarrassing done in front of tons of people compared to privately[/quote]
That's quite a strange and arbitrary response. Do you habitually mistrust people and think they don't mean what they say unless it's witnessed by others? Or do you yourself habitually say things you don't mean (both good and bad) to other people, hence assuming that other people are likely to be not speaking the truth?