Help me stop thinking:(

[Loser321]

Name change because I'm a total loser.

I overthink and worry about EVERYTHING. To the point I get myself in a state and get this horrible knot/sick feeling in my stomach. I've always been the same even as a teenager. I stopped for a while and since having my daughter it's back with a vengeance.

A few examples so you know how much of a dick I am;

.I will bump into someone I havent saw/spoken to for a while and have a chat with them. Then when we part ways I'll overthink every little thing that I have said to them and worry about what they must think of me

.I can turn every slight worry into a massive worry and make myself ill over it. Then when the issue has been resolved I promise myself I wont get into that state ever again and to stop overthinking every little thing

.I had an argument at work (I wasn't on shift just collecting something) as the person I was arguing against made a few discriminating remarks towards a client. It turned into a massive hoo har and I hate myself for losing my shit with them. I've been panicking ever since that I'm going to lose my job as it's the care sector. It's always in the back of my mind i just wished I could take a break from myself. Also i wished I could explain this situation in more detail but its very outing.

I know I sound like a tit, I know I'm being a tit. However, I can't stop, I can't switch off. I'm struggling with it so much.

Please someone advise me on how I can stop this stupidness. My mind is in the gutter right now.

Sounds like you may have Anxiety rather than just over thinking. I'm the same, I get myself so worked up over nothing. Might be worth visiting your gp

I would try reading The Happiness Trap. it is based on principles of acceptance and commitment therapy and really useful for those prone to overthinking things (ie me!)

My partner haa social anxiety and he sounds a lot like you. I would look into professional or self help with it as there really are ways to help you change this :)

And just to make you feel less down, my partner is a lovely charming social man. It's only him who over analyses and doubts everything about any social encounter he has. But it can be debilitating so please do get some help

Try the book “Stop Thinking Start Living” by Richard Carlson, it’s incredibly helpful.
www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0722535473/ref=cm_sw_r_em_api_fabc_2XtXFbWBCSWJT?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

OP I could have written your post - I have anxiety and have recently started medication, things are better already.

It isn't 'normal' to put yourself through this every day. I think you should speak to your GP, there are a variety of therapies you can try before resorting to medication and talking it through with someone really helps.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way.

ASD in females presents as over-analysing and overwhelming anxiety. It's not straightforward to get a diagnosis. Do some of these traits sound like you, OP? (It's a long list!)

taniaannmarshall.wordpress.com/2013/03/26/moving-towards-a-female-profile-the-unique-characteristics-abilities-and-talents-of-asperwomen-adult-women-with-asperger-syndrome/

Thank you all so much for being so lovely. I was prepared for a right telling off for being such a tit. I have thought about it being anxiety but didnt think I suited the criteria. I think I'll call the doctors tomorrow and explain. Thanks for all the helpful advice. Xx

@ScubaSteven has the medication helped with the overthinking? I would take anything if it meant my mind just STFU for 5 minutes. I'm so glad your feeling better it really is just awful feeling like this isnt it x

Sounds like me and I probably do have mild anxiety tendencies from time to time. One of the things I do is I'll over think something I've said then text the person to explain/apologise/justify myself 🙄 I think it's just a trait and it doesn't bother me as much as it maybe is bothering you so best to speak to your GP.

@RaymondSpectacles brilliant link, thanks.

@fluffyugg

Sounds like me and I probably do have mild anxiety tendencies from time to time. One of the things I do is I'll over think something I've said then text the person to explain/apologise/justify myself 🙄 I think it's just a trait and it doesn't bother me as much as it maybe is bothering you so best to speak to your GP.

Omg same..but then I keep getting texts like "will you just stop it" or an eye roll emoji which makes me worry all the more! Yes I think your right, will give them a call tomorrow.

@Loser321 it really has, I've been taking them for a month - I won't lie, the first 2 ish weeks was really rough as it made the anxiety worse (common side effect until you get used to them, no idea why). Then I was going longer stretches between overthinking and anxiety until this week (5) I've had a planned dosage increase and I feel so much better.

What you've written is essentially what I told my doctor, I just wanted a break from my brain, I was sick of it just whirring and making me feel bad. Today has been the first Monday at work that I haven't felt like I was about to implode with anxiety and fear. I've also had a phone consultation from a referral my dr made for different types of therapy and they've recommended Stress Management which I'll do online.

Thank you, I feel a lot better than I thought I would. It was a hard decision to take medication but at this point I'd take it forever to have the relief I feel now.