Building self esteem

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Hello,

I often see on various threads the suggestion that the OP works on their self esteem.

I know I desperately need to do this. I've had a disastrous marriage, ending when I found out my husband was cheating. And yes, I (perhaps unsurprisingly) have low self esteem. I want to have high self esteem obviously! But where to start...?

I often feel it can be thrown around like confetti because it is easier said than done.

It really depends on what type of person you are, I think generic starting points are having boundaries so that you aren’t in positions that don’t make you feel good. Surround yourself with people who value you, and you them- it makes all the difference! Do things you enjoy, if you’re unsure start writing lists of things you would like to do. Generally look after yourself, make sure you’re not at the bottom of the list that you value yourself enough. Exercise is a good go-to for both alone time, get some feel good endorphins and actually looking after yourself. I also think that it helps get rid of any stagnant energy- my go to is walking and yoga.

Also get to know yourself and what you like and what you don’t, it can sound to some counter productive, but when you can address that parts of you that you love and parts that need improvement you can see where to create change. I personally never used to like how quiet I was, so I started being more vocal and using my voice more.

It’s a journey for sure it’s not an over night fix but it so good to feel the change!

A technique I use for lots of things but may help you too is called EFT you can search Brad Yates or nick ortner on YouTube and lots will come up.

Don’t underestimate the impact of what your husband did but you can heal and flourish!

@BF2748 what a great post. Thank you. I agree- the phrase can be thrown around and it is easier said than done!

I feel that I'm stronger then I was a few years back, but would like to be more self-assured I suppose! Thanks for the recommendations of things to look into. Exactly the sort of startling block I need.

Appreciated 😌

I agree that the people you surround yourself with matter. I think it is good to have something in your life that you know you are good at and confident in (job, hobby or whatever).

But yes, it is easier said than done.