Never got over leaving London, help me think it was the right decision

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I'm French, lived 8 years in London, left 6 years ago. I still miss London so much. Since that I live in Stockholm and I really dislike the cold (people and climate). I have a child and can't find a solution to move back. Considering moving to France but my husband isn't keen on that.
How can I just move on?

Sorry you're feeling like this.

Where is your husband from, and where are your respective families? (All in France?)

Do either/both of you work and do you need to be in a particular country to do that job?

How old is your child?

Husband is Swedish. We both freelance so no attach but not easy to move either. My child is still young. I feel trapped in a lifestyle that I don't like. I dont know what strategy to adopt.

That's tough. If your husband is Swedish and you've started to build together a life in Sweden (including raising a child there), persuading him to move would be a pretty big thing. It might not even be possible.

What is it about the lifestyle that you don't like?

Is there no way you can adapt your lifestyle in Sweden to be more like the lifestyle you miss from London/France?

Has being in Sweden with your Swedish DH felt different to being in London with him? I think it is different for couples who are both in a new country compared to when one is in their home country.

I think you should maybe accept you're not happy and think about what you'd like to do about that if your husband will consider changes?

London gets under your skin. Lived there for 6 years 20 years ago. Still miss it.

Thanks for your replies. I dont like the conformism in Sweden, the cold climate, the long dark winters and being isolated geographically. I also dislike the language! I know it's not far from the rest of Europe but it actually is imo...
We did an attempt to move back three years ago after I realised brexit would make it complicated. Husband doesn't miss London and is not interested in French culture...

@stampsurprise I am obsessed. And we can't get the quick fix atm...

I get the dark winters and that is why I would never return to live in the north of England. Certainly in the Uk and in France there is less conformism.

In your shoes I would be wanting to return to France, not London. I am saddened that your DH is not interested in French culture.

@nosswith I can see how being back home would be comfortable in terms of language and papers. I can not find a corner that truly attract me in France. it seems so hectic these days.
Do you live in south of England?

I am saddened that your DH is not interested in French culture.

Why?

OP, what made you decide to leave London in the first place?