How do I tell DP I don't want him to view this flat?

[CoolYourBeansMySon]

DP and I don't live together (too soon). He's currently flat hunting, and has shortlisted some flats he wants to go and see. They're all near to where I used to live. One of the flats is somewhere I went to a NYE party 15 odd years ago where I had my drink spiked and ended up having sex with someone because of it (not the person that spiked my drink but the guy had sex with me knowing that my drink had been spiked). It's been redecorated but it's clear from the layout and later finding out the block, it's definitely the one.

I don't know how to tell him. I'm going with him on viewings and I don't even want to set foot there. Just seeing the internal photos made me feel sick.
How/what do I tell him? He knows about the drink spiking incident but no detail and I don't want to have to bring it up again. Anyway, he's so excited about being able to buy somewhere I don't want to take the edge of it for him. I can try and put him off it, but I don't know how!

Any suggestions please?

If I were in your position, I'd find it easiest to text DP rather than try and explain the issue face to face, but everyone has their preferences.

I'd just word it similar to what you did in your OP:

"Hi DP, I didn't know how to tell you this face to face, but one of the flats that you are planning to view is the place where my drink was spiked 15 years ago.

I hope you understand that I can't bring myself to even set foot there - whilst I'm at peace with what happened, being in the flat or building itself would be traumatic for me.

I hope you understand my position. Obviously I have no issues with any of the other flats you've shortlisted!

See you soon,
Cool"

Thanks for all of your responses and the messages of support. Being a Sunday there were no new properties and no viewings to book so we didn't talk flats until this evening when DP got his laptop out to talk through what he was going to book to view this week. The flat was there and when he got to it I said that I went to a party there, it didn't end well. He looked at me and I told him I was assaulted. He said ok, closed the page down and we moved on to the next flat. So, all dealt with and done. So I can close it again, without having to have a horrible conversation which I didn't want. I feel better now. Thanks

Oh, that's great news. Be kind to yourself now, though. I'm glad you have a kind partner, too.

Glad it worked out and your DP was smart enough/sensitive enough to move on swiftly.

Really glad that got resolved

He sounds a keeper. Tough for you for all this to have resurfaced.

Well done you and well done him. Hope he finds somewhere lovely that you can feel safe and happy visiting.

Tell him. There's not much else that you can do. He already knows about the incident, so it won't be coming as a big shock to him.