Long story short, my auntie is the only person living close to me from my side of the family (we're both in the same country). The older I got the more I realised how toxic and manipulative she actually is and how much damage she has done to my mental health over the years all the way from my youth. It's all very messy. I know that she can be nice and help when I need it but this doesn't happen very often. She loves my DD. She texted me last week and demanded and tried to manipulate me into letting her have DD for the day because she has a day off work.... the night before. I said no and that we already have childcare arranged with MIL to which she said 'but she's there all time time, it's about time she comes here?' I said no sorry, it's too late to cancel now but we can arrange another day if you like. She's now ignoring me. It's been almost a week and she's still not replied. I felt bad and texted again today to see if she would like DD and I to come over to see her one day next week or over the weekend and she's still not replied. Wtf do I do? I have my 12 weeks scan on Wednesday and I was going to tell her that I'm pregnant the next time I see her but that's obviously going to reply now that she has some sort of a problem. But then it will cause more problems and she will be even more pissed off when she finds out I've been pregnant this whole time and haven't told her. I just can't win!!!!!