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Housing issues

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user1471175331 · 25/11/2020 18:51

Hi all, I am in desperate need of some advice. We recently moved into a property, about a year ago. We have 2 children both of which are registered disabled. Our 20 year old son in particular has Asperger’s Syndrome and very severe mental health issues which during this pandemic have been exasperated a lot. He has had quite a few outbursts of shouting, swearing, playing his music loudly, most of which are due to his frustration and lack of understanding of lockdown, self isolating, etc. Our neighbours have took it upon themselves to contact the housing association at least once every week and tell them all about any noise from my property. We as parents have managed to calm all noise levels to a minimum and my son is now on medication from the gp. In the last four weeks we have made very little noise and myself and my husband sit at home in silence as not to upset anyone. This still has not stopped the neighbours from continually reporting us. As we have had a few incidents with our son the housing association are now taking every one of their calls as gospel! They are threatening us with eviction. We are unable to control behaviours directly associated to his disability and are at our wits end with explaining this over and over. The neighbours who are responsible only have one child living with them for half the week, the other half he spends at his fathers. Their other son they threw out in March, so they are living in a 3 bed house a just a couple which seems a bit unfair as they are expecting everyone on a family estate to be as quiet as them. Not possible with children of any ability never mind those severely disabled and mentally ill. We have tried to speak to them and they are very apologetic to our face and show understanding yet keep calling the housing. What do we do?

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carbnarA · 25/11/2020 20:10

Do you have a social worker who could speak to the housing association?

user1471175331 · 26/11/2020 09:04

Unfortunately not both my children are over 16 and we have tried to ask for one but due to the pandemic we are not a priority!

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carbnarA · 26/11/2020 11:36

Oh that's a shame. How about emailing your MP?

Jazzistorture · 26/11/2020 13:17

It's not pleasant to live next to noise, though. You might think you've not been noisy because you have been desensitised to it. Maybe a sheltered or supported housing is better for your son if his needs are such that he is making problems to the neighbours.

BetteTwoShoes · 26/11/2020 13:18

How do you know it’s only one set of neighbours reporting?

BetteTwoShoes · 26/11/2020 19:12

Hmmmm Hmm

user1471538283 · 27/11/2020 07:44

Everyone is finding it hard and they may be working at home so cant get away from the noise or working long hours and just need peace when they get or they could have been ill themselves. I understand it is difficult for you but for it to get as far as eviction it must be really bad

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