1 day to move house. Please help!

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Me again, my 100th thread on Mumsnet this week. (Slightly exaggerating)

Here's the short version - Mum's had a stroke, doing very well but can't communicate. They're thinking of sending her home very soon, possibly tomorrow. Because she can't communicate it's been suggested I move in with her, to call Ambulance/fire department if needed.

So I've got one day, to move a toddler a dog and myself. Luckily it's only a ten minute walk away so this can be done. (Oh god please say it can?!)

DD, already has a cot there so that's no problem. If I can get a man with a van I can take my bed, if not I can dig out an air mattress/sleep on the floor for a couple of days.

Please help me make a list of essentials to move and do tomorrow???

I've got a bag of food items. I'm going to go pack mine and DD's clothes now. I'll check back in and see if any of you helpful people have suggested anything else afterwards.

Tons of thanks

Are social services or occupational therapy involved in case any aids are needed in the house?
Also the discharge should be when you are ready surely.

I am really sorry about your mum, Op. Are you sure that she is ready to come home? What care package has she been allocated?

My concern having had a similar but different experience is that the hospital wants the bed but is relying on you to provide care and support when other help needs to be in place.

It might be worth asking this to be moved to the elderly parents topic.

Phone charger
Laptop
Books
Medication
Nappies
Dog food

For starters. Good luck and hope all goes well.

And you of course want to do the best thing for your mum. But this might actually mean you not saying yes to her coming home until everything is in place.

Thank you, she has been discharged from all other types of therapy because they say she can move/wash/dress herself fine. It's just communication.

From the phone call discussion it pretty much sounds like either I move in. Or she gets sent home alone with an alarm. They want people out of the beds fast. I'm not sure I do agree with it, but I'm also not sure I can stop it.

They need to make sure she's been referred to speech and language, can she move about ok? Is her understanding ok? ie can she take medication correctly without prompting when she needs it? If you weren't available they wouldn't just drop your mum home and let her crack on with it, they'd need to assess these things for her own safety. Can she write?

If discharge is imminent, then pack each of you a suitcase like you were going on holiday. Include towels, big coats etc.

You've done the food so that is sorted. Arrange a neighbour to collect your post/any parcels you can't redirect. If you have any grocery shopping ordered change the address so it comes to where you need it.

Do you have access to your mum's money should you need it for her bills etc?

Sorry you're going through this.

They never hang about when it comes to discharge but lets face it, they want patients gone even sooner than ever due to the covid risk.