Sister pulls apart everything I say.

[Fedupalways]

Literally. We have a family WhatsApp group which I don't feel like I can really reply in because every time I do my sister quotes what I say and pulls it apart. Either I'm too serious or she doesn't understand what I find so funny.
I'm just fed up of it. She doesn't treat me the same way she treats our other siblings and said she has always disliked me.

She has always been allowed to do what she wants and my family are no better in all honesty.

She could be completely wrong about something but everyone will agree for the fear of upsetting her. She is vile and I'm fed up.

It's gets me down so much. I'm the only sibling who she never even gives a card too either and she doesn't bother with my DC but does the others.

More of rant really, sorry. I'm just so fed up. It's constantly. My family are another thread all together. I feel like the only one who sees through their BS.

I have a very toxic sister too.
I’ve gone low contact with her, to save my sanity.
The only reason I still talk to her is because our dad is ill. Once he passes away I’ll go NC.

I'm sorry to hear about your dad.
I just don't get how someone is openly so vile.

My sister is toxic in other ways

I'd leave the group only interact with people individually

True. But most of them are the same and it's so much drama all the time. They guilt trip me into feeling bad I left the group so of course end up joining again. Story of my life.

I’d leave the group or tell her to Piss of every single time.
Who gives a fuck what anyone thinks?

Just leave the group.... whats app is new u don't need to be there..
What add stress to your life .

Leave the group. TBH if other members of your family are content to watch you be treated in this way and to have someone tell you you are disliked then you have more than just a sister problem.
If one of my (4) sisters acted in that way the other three would shut that down pronto. Not to say we don't remark on each other's personality traits, in fact our group chats can be quite the piss-take, but your sister's remarks and behaviour don't seem in the same vein. And if you have siblings who are content to receive cards etc for their own dc but watch yours being ignored, then they are spineless c** themselves.

I have one toxic sister also.
I went low contact with her.
Had to get in touch recently and she was up to her old tricks within an hour so I told her exactley what she does and gave her a chance to appologise but all I got was denial.Told her right I am done,so I will never speak to her again.

It is so hard OP .Why cant family members just be nice.
I really feel for you.

Other family members just say ignore her,you know what she is like,life is too short.
My reply is yes life is short,too bloody short to sit back and let someone treat me like that just because we are related.
Good bye,good ridance.

Why are you so entangled? How old are you ?

We have never had a family WhatsApp.

My sister is blocked on my phone. I occasionally check my spam email folder to see if there is anything form her

Why do you need so much contact?

Thanks for the replies. I don't need contact.

Yes they are all happy to watch it. Not feeling sorry for myself but I'm kind of the black sheep. I've always been treated that way so I suppose they copy traits from what they see. I don't know. What a pity party

Oh not at all

Maybe mute the chat and clear it daily without reading it?

Yes that's a good idea. Thank you

One of my sister does this exact thing. I am low contact. I stayed on the WhatsApp groups and will continue to see her at family events but I don't react to her nonsense at all. I'm polite but breezy. Works pretty well.

I don't see her on my own. Not that she'd want to be in my company anyway.
But even when I see her with other people she always picks an argument and it's just so draining.
Of course the blame straight away goes to me from everyone and I just can't be bothered with it anymore.

I think switch off the page for a week and see how you feel . Consider your stress levels and happiness and how this impacts on yr life and how you feel . I suspect you havnt felt peaceful/ calm for years

Thanks everyone for being so kind.
I suffer bad with my MH so thank you for some guidance and reassurance that in fact I don't need to engage with this crap.
Thank you so much.

I have had to disengage from my family as my mum was like yr sister and also was amazing at playing victim so the rest of the family supported her. . With counselling i realised what was going on and found the courage to leave . I suspect this plays a large part in your mental health and you deserve not to feel like that. My advice to start is to get counselling on board, Thats the start of your journey to a new free of criticism life