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Would you walk from a job

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MerinoFroggie · 25/11/2020 15:02

I came into work this morning to be faced by my employer and another accusation.

I am a nanny for a family. I'm working for some years for them. I've had some issues with them in recent times. Nothing major. Mainly their expectations of me an my work. They want be to be a super nanny or miracle worker within their home cleaning and cooking and laundry and the childcare. I never signed up for all that load. It's bad now, when the kids are in school but summer time and holdidays cane be a dreadful time because the children are at home and I'm expected to do the same load of household duties. That can be very intense too and especially depending on the parents schedule. I could go in, in the morning and work until 7 or 8 or 9 at night then days and there's no real break or sit down during them days. So that's at its worst.

The mother is now into her 40s and she's suffering from some moods. The best way to describe it is 'putting on air' to her friends. She planned a lunch date during the summer and attitude around the house was appalling to us all to her kids and also me - she was like a geared up lieutenant. She spoke down to me so much that day while ordering me about the place. Her friends came for lunch and she was no nice and pleasant. Completely a different person. I should have walked then but I didn't.

The parents seem to be going through a spell of their own stresses and seem to be on edge and are far too quickly and easily taking it out on me.

I have seen some rubbish from the pair of them in recent times. Eg she would go and get her hair done and he would go out golfing for the afternoon. All hell would break lose if he wasn't available on his phone and when he would come back she would have it in for him. Almost as if hes not allowed to go to golf but she's allowed to get her hair done. They are fighting a lot lately.

Today is the straw that's breaking the camels back for me. They hav a sensitive toilet system and it's been getting blocked a few times a year and the ceptic tank service needs to be called. Every time they say the issue is wipes and people flusding wipes down the toilet. I know not to flush wipes down the toilet and I know not to flush anything else down either. The rest of the people in the family should also know by now not to be flushing wipes down the toilet. We all heard the lectures before about not flushing wipes down the toilet. Yet, I came in today and father gave out stink and told me not to be flushing wipes down the toilet. I'm not flushing wipes down the toilet. 'I know' he says 'I'm saying it to everybody'.

I'm down right disgusted at the lecture he gave me this morning about the toilet. It was just such an accusatory way. It wasn't the first time either.

I'm flushing the toilets after his kids and teenagers and I can tell you it not wipes doing it. It's piles and piles and piles and piles of toilet paper in the bowl with one sitting. All of them have that habit of using far too much toilet paper. Would using too much toilet paper clog the system?

I really want to walk.

OP posts:
HotSince63 · 25/11/2020 15:06

Can you afford to? Do you have anything else lined up? Would you get another job quickly?

I'd be tempted to walk. There's no way I'd put up with working 12 hour says, being spoken to like shit - an having to flush the toilet after a teenager Shock.

growinggreyer · 25/11/2020 15:12

It sounds like time for you to move on. Can you think of an acceptable reason eg you prefer to work with small children and their youngest child is getting past the age range that you specialise in. Think of something like that to smooth over the conversation rather than a reaction to the toilet paper fiasco. Good luck.

ChikiTIKI · 25/11/2020 15:45

It won't help you personally/professionally to tell them the real reason you're leaving so just hand your notice in with a reason like given above, either before or after getting another job lined up,depending on your situation.

MerinoFroggie · 25/11/2020 15:48

I won't be telling them the real reason for wanting to leave. I will dress it up as a different reason like moving away for an example. I have a thread here and I will have to move away in the new year. Maybe even into the city instead of living rural.

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chopc · 25/11/2020 15:51

I would walk .......

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