Fighting the urge for a third *title edited by MNHQ at OP's request*

[FirsAndFairylights]

Done to death I know but I am agonising once more over whether to try for a third child. The only thing that stops me is the thought it could detract from my 2dds quality of life, not so much financially as emotionally and in terms of their enjoyment of family things. As 1 of 3 myself holidays etc were often actually really stressful but I suspect that was partly my parents’ fault rather than there being 3 of us.

Please help, would a third jeopardise everything? Will a regret not trying for a longed for final child? I am totally lost at sea on this and have been for over a year now. Husband happy either way!

‘Fighting’ not giving ffs

Hi I'm thinking exactly the same. How old are you? I'm 34. It's something I think about so much every day!!

I hung on for two years with the should we/ shouldn't we go for a third child conundrum. In the end we did and I think it has been brilliant but it is undoubtedly noisier and messier than two and there are times at pinch points, like getting ready for a holiday or when everyone gets poorly or when life throws a run of curve balls, when trying to manage with three children can be the tipping point for making things far more stressful.

Obviously, that isn't the majority of the time but if you are aiming for a well oiled machine of a relaxed and calm family life then sticking with two might be your best bet.