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If you look good and have kids

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BykerGrosvenor · 23/11/2020 18:56

...as in, children that you gave birth to... did you go through a phase of feeling and looking rubbish after your baby was born? Or another way of asking the same question, will I ever look and feel better or is this how I look now? I'm 4 months on and still 2.5 stone heavier, wrinklier, and have started going grey. My hairs falling out and looks thin and lank and of course I've a horrid wobbly tummy. Boobs are feeling less firm and looking lower having given up breastfeeding and my skin is looking unhealthy and dull. After c-section I'm only just tentatively able to do basic yoga and my back is kaput.

My hair used to be thick and shiny, my skin was radiant and I was slimish. I wasn't ever super confident in my appearance but now I dream of looking like I used to. I don't expect to remove wrinkles or grey hairs but will anything improve or have I got old overnight?

Sorry if it's shallow to ask this but I do feel it's contributing to my general feeling a bit crappy. (Also for context I'm nearly 40, first baby).

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Howmanysleepsnow · 23/11/2020 19:57

I felt and looked similar after my first. After my second my boobs had lifted back up. After my third I was so busy I lost all the weight and more. The only thing that never returned to normal was my hair. Everything else came back in time.

BykerGrosvenor · 23/11/2020 22:08

Wow you had 3! Sounds like you were ok after the first one though.

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plumpootle · 23/11/2020 22:13

I felt awful after my first baby (I was early 40s so - older than you). When I look back at pics I actually look quite nice, but I felt awfully frumpy and fat and out of sorts. All was well again after 18 months and now she's 4 I feel great, completely normal again. Give it time I'd say. Your body has been through a lot and new babies aren't very easy either.

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Cait73 · 23/11/2020 22:18

I had my daughter in South Africa and I truly believe the weather/lifestyle helped me look and feel better quicker; I was able to swim every day twice a day, we ate fresh foods sitting outside breathing fresh air and I had "help" within the home and with the baby

20 years on I'm raising my baby grandson here in the UK it's dark and gloomy I'm on my own and COVID isn't helping - added stress and obvious restrictions mean we're all a lot more isolated so I'm eating more, my skin's not getting sunshine and my hair's falling out too but that could just be my age lol

FusionChefGeoff · 23/11/2020 22:21

Mine are 6 and 8 and I am fitter and stronger and more body confident than I've ever been. Bigger than I used to be but in a good way!

I felt and looked fucking terrible for at least 18 months after DC2 so it took a while but I didn't put pressure on and waited till I had a bit more energy etc to start getting into exercise.

4 months is nothing! Embrace your different / changing body. Buy new clothes that fit and flatter your new figure and wait until your baby is older before worrying about what you look like Thanks

FrangipaniBlue · 23/11/2020 22:46

I was already overweight before I had DS (size 16-18) and stayed that way after, but then I lost 3.5 stone and got down to a 10-12, I have a different hair cut and colour and take a lot better care of myself in terms of exercise and what I eat so both my hair and skin are in better condition too.

I also have a less stressful job and get a good amount of sleep - I swear this has helped enormously.

DS is almost 13 and I'm regularly told I don't look old enough to have teenager and that I've improved with age apparently.

It's absolutely 100% doable @BykerGrosvenor don't give up!!!!

CCSS15 · 23/11/2020 23:01

I'm a similar age to you and had the second one 9 months ago. Its taking much longer for the weight to come off although nearly there now but my shape has changed and I still haven't made peace with that yet
Make sure you take enough vitamins especially b12 and vit d

BlenheimOrange · 23/11/2020 23:12

It took me 9+ months to lose the weight, but at least 2 years to go back to a shape that felt familiar. Happened in the end though. Hair and boobs improved in a similar time frame.

Howmanysleepsnow · 24/11/2020 19:50

@BykerGrosvenor I actually had 4, but no change with the 4th. I gained 4 stone in my first pregnancy and my boobs dropped/ hair thinned etc. I meant I looked and felt the same as you do afterwards, not the same as pre pregnancy. Sorry I wasn’t clear, I really should read my posts back!

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