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TW - Cancer and the end

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EchoLimaYankee · 22/11/2020 00:26

My beloved grandma has cancer. Recently discovered but very advanced it seems. 5 different tumours. Three brain, kidney, pancreas and lung and a final one that is undiscovered but is apparently the source of it all.
Due to COVID and another medical issue she hasn’t had biopsies or another full body scan since diagnosis 6 weeks ago. So we are very much in the dark about the type of cancer and how long she has left. Bizarrely in the spring/summer she had results from something saying no cancer.
She’s been discharged and has a live in carer. The carer says she sleeps 18-20 hours a day. She eats well but almost wakes to eat and shuffle back to her bedroom. She makes sense on the phone but does have confused moments at times. Especially when she wakes in the night.
All anec-data well received. Does this sound like a woman at the end? She’s 80 with other conditions.

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MustardMitt · 22/11/2020 00:33

I have no advice @EchoLimaYankee, just bumping for someone more knowledgable.

CluelessWriter · 22/11/2020 00:42

My dad was thought to have cancer back in April and we were given a guesstimate of 1-3 months. They were unable to diagnose as he was too frail for tests, and it appears they were wrong.

He is still with us, and in what is considered end of life frailty. He has been largely bedridden for the duration - initially able to get out for the loo but not for some months now. He sleeps, watches TV intermittently and eats a bare minimum. There have been several occasions when we thought we were losing him but he subsequently rallied.

As you have a definite diagnosis, have you been able to speak to the medics treating your gran?

Sadly I would prepare yourself that it might be longer and less straightforward decline than you might expect.

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EchoLimaYankee · 22/11/2020 13:24

Thank you @MustardMitt and @CluelessWriter!

@CluelessWriter is he happy? I don’t mind her going on if she’s happy. I just want to know as she lives 6 hours away and visiting is tricky and I want to plan a visit soon and encourage other family to go up too.

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