space in relationship

[gg12346]

I wish if few married men can give me advise .I am married to someone who needs a lot of space in the relationship and i feel so offended sometimes. My hubby is fine , has no affairs of what I know off, provides for familys but sometimes becomes too self engrossed.He watches tv the whole day in his special room and if I come or bother him he would say I need space .Even if I question him what he is watching or what he watched the whole day he feels offended.I want my hubby to spend some quality time with his kid or us .He would only do that when he needs it himself .But would not have any consideration for feeling of others .I need company from my hubby which i only get while having food or deciding something for future .Or discussing kids .AIBU?

Well I think it’s odd as a married man in my mid 50s. I’ve always spent a lot of time (most of it) with my wife, and kids, though they’re pretty much grown up now. My wife has always let me have as much time as I want for my hobbies, but I always fitted it around the family. I don’t understand why you would have a wife and kids and not want to spend time with them. I loved our time as a four-some, doesn’t happen so much now as they have their own lives, but luckily my wife and I still get on really well (regularly make each cry laughing).

Was he like this before dc?
Why does he need the space? Assuming there is a back story heee

My ex partner needed a lot of ‘space’ and prioritised it over us: his wife and kids.
He is an ex now.
End of story.

You deserve better if I’m honest.

That's a thoroughly weird dynamic. Why is he in a relationship with you, and living under the same roof as you, if he doesn't feel able to spend any time with you or his children?

For what it's worth, I don't live with my partner, both of us believe that we are happier spending more time apart than we are together, but we're not married and we don't have children together. When we are in the same house, I don't take off to another room and ignore them for hours on end.

Makes me wonder why, if he feels like that, he hasn't just left permanently and gone off where he can do his own thing 100% of the time, and I'm not sure why you would put up with it either.