Second child when I'm older

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I am 42 and have a 5 year old and have been trying for a second child for a few years now and have experienced losses along the way. It's been a really heartbreaking journey. I long and ache for another child. However I'm older now and wonder maybe I might be too old to have another one even if it is physically possible.
I am fit and in good health, hold a decent job, a home, with a very hands on partner and we are financially comfortable. However I wonder if this all enough? everyone around me had children much younger so I don't have anything to compare with.
I dont know any 50year old mums with a 5 year old, would I be embarrassed at the school gates next to to other 30 something mums? Would I feel tired too with it all? Would any potential child be ashamed of me? Some people over 50 are planning on retirement, yet I will still be at beginning. How would it feel to be 60 with a 15 year old?
What do other posters think? x

At 43 with a 6yo I had a dc.
No regrets whatsoever.. He is now 6 and I am a happy 49yo.
I had dc in my teens, 20's, 30's also!

Sorry for your losses Only you can decide this. You are not too old

I had dd2 @ 38
23 years after having dd1.
Dd2 is 5 next month. She was a surprise arrival I definitely wasn't planning anymore.

You’re not too old, our life spans have increased. Make sure you’re taking enough folic acid and also qc10 (the pic I’ve attached, it helps detox your eggs), I’m absolutely not saying supplements will get you pregnant but it certainly helped me. Sorry for your losses, too many suffer this heartache.

This

I had dc at 39 and 41. I would have loved 3 but tbh dc2 was so energetic and slept so badly i didnt feel ready til he was 3, and 44 felt too old. If he'd been as easy as dc1 i might have tried at 42!

If you want one and can provide for one then keep trying. I think there are a lot of older mums around so wouldn't worry about standing out. Good luck whatever you decide.

Thanks everyone.
I don't feel old now, I worry I will feel old when I'm older..if that makes sense !

You're not too old! I know plenty of mums who have had babies in their 40s! Nobody bats an eyelid or would even think it's out of the ordinary these days.

If you're struggling to conceive though, I'd probably get medical help (IVF springs to mind. No judgement here as my DC are IVF babies).

My grandmother's on both sides had their babies in their 40s and all was fine. My great grandmother had her final DC in her early 50s! (He was a bit distance from the family as soo much younger than his siblings)

I've TTC 10yrs, 3 mcs and about to start my 2nd round of IVF. No kids. I havent hit the point of not trying, but realise our chances or ever having a child are diminishing monthly. I had 2, distant cousins that both fell naturally age 44 and don't regret it at all. Best of luck OP.

I'm mid sixties and had my last two children at 40 and 43 and no, it's not too old. I don't seem to be much, if any, older than a lot of other parents at uni drop off and pick up.
My children have never mentioned having older parents in any negative light. My DS did think it was funny when one of his friend's granddad was younger than his father.
In all honestly, age has never been a problem and I don't think tiredness has either!

Thanks all, you have given me hope