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Neighbors driving me mad

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MillieVanilla · 18/11/2020 22:37

I live in a terraced, we've had so many people move in and out of the house next door, 9/10 have been a nightmare. We've had abusive shouty threatening ones, students who sang the same karaoke song on repeat every Friday, fights, Police, the whole lot.
When the latest lot moved in in August, seeing a family made me hopeful we would have seen our last annoying tenants.
The wife and two daughters are very polite, friendly, always say hello over fence. The younger daughter especially was very politely inquisitive of my gardening and is a real sweetheart.
The dad is a different story, you barely get a grunt out of him. He locked himself out one afternoon and sent the older daughter to ask for help, we obliged by allowing him access over our garden fence. Didn't even get a thank you.
For the last 6 weeks, from 9.30pm until near on 2am, he has been on hours and hours long, incredibly loud, phone calls. Not multiple a night, one long, continuous, loud, call.
Now, clearly some people have time zones to accommodate and that's fine. You can take or make calls at whatever time you like.
What really pisses me off is he conducts these oh so important calls in the top front room of his house. Which is directly next to my bedroom.
It's literally like trying to sleep whilst something talks incessantly in your ear. I can even hear him whilst I wear in ear headphones, with a video playing. Last night he finally stopped at 2.45am. I was up at 6am.
I've tried moving my bed (which pissed me off further as I like it where it was, it makes it a nuisance opening the wardrobe doors and the wardrobes are built in so can't be moved). I've tried ear plugs which aren't practical due to DS having night time related health issues. I've tried all sorts. But no, he is that sodding loud.
If it was once in a while I wouldn't mind but it's every single night now.
I really don't want to fallout with them, the wife as I say is lovely but he's an ignorant git.
DD tried to convince me to bang on the wall but I think that would cause aggravation.

If you were me, would a polite, measured note be a good idea? Theres no point asking their landlord to step in as we tried before when his previous tenants were being vile and smashing his house up and he didn't care.

Sort of like "hi, not sure you know but the walls are super thin and my bedroom is next to perhaps the room you've chosen as an office, could you please be mindful of the time and perhaps make calls elsewhere during night hours?" Does that come across rude?
I need my sleep!!! I'm living on coffee right now and it's really getting me down.

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Whenismumhome · 18/11/2020 22:40

That’s sounds bloody awful and totally unacceptable.

Doesn’t matter if his wife/children are nice or not, you are entitled to your own peace and quiet.

I wouldn’t write a note - I’d go to their door and say to them nicely about it (at a distance obviously) and ask if he could please keep the noise down.

If he doesn’t listen and it continues, you’d need to take it further at that point

PepsiLola · 18/11/2020 22:45

I'd knock on the door and speak to the wife (even better him). Say that you would not complain if it was a one off, but now it's really starting to effect your family!

MillieVanilla · 18/11/2020 22:52

Yes I did think about trying to time going outside the front with them coming out for school drop off with the younger one. I think because we tried polite chat with the last one and I had that one scream in my face and threaten all sorts it puts me off as she didn't seem the type at all!
I think I may have to though. The last thing I want to do is uncolve official people and I really hope he just doesn't realise how loud he is or how thin the walls are, we don't have a TV or anything up here and the DCs are always online with headphones so he may not have realised perhaps.
Thanks guys

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parietal · 18/11/2020 22:59

people often don't realise how loud they are talking when on a zoom call, especially if they have a poor quality mic or noise cancelling headphones. let him know that it is loud & suggest that better mic & headphones might fix the issue.

if you are getting techy, then I think the thing he needs is 'feed through headphones'.

Deathraystare · 19/11/2020 16:50

TBH I reckon he won't give a shit but at least yo will have told him. He is probably one of those self important bores who wants everyone to know how important he is!

ComtesseDeSpair · 19/11/2020 17:04

Why would you not say something? He doesn’t sound unpleasant or aggressive, he probably doesn’t realise you can hear so clearly, you don’t have to accuse him or his family of anything - just point out the walls are thin and soundproofing poor and his home office is next to your bedroom so could he try and keep the noise down.

MillieVanilla · 19/11/2020 19:54

Oh I was going to sort of say it may be a home office, I dont know that it actually is. I know the house has a different layout to mine as it was a HMO (illegally and they got collared twice) so it could be but it was more as something polite to say.
I did see his wife this morning and I said I was really sorry to trouble her and i don't want her to think I'm being one of those neighbors who will bitch about minor stuff but it's stopping me from sleeping.
She said she hadn't realised he was taking calls at that time of night but she would speak to him about doing so donwstairs instead.
I don't know how she didn't know as he's properly loud but I wonder if they use the room in the attic perhaps as a bedroom?
I just don't want to cause any drama you know as I have no plans to move (can't afford to if I'm honest) and we've had pretty shitty situations with this house before.
I'm hoping for a quiet night tonight.

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wegetthejobdone · 19/11/2020 20:34

I would record what it sounds like in your room, and then be prepared to play it to them to demonstrate how clearly you can hear the calls.

BurningEars · 19/11/2020 20:46

Hopefully you will have a quieter night tonight.

MillieVanilla · 20/11/2020 08:40

So he did still have a very loud call from around 9pm but it stopped at 11.30.
I can deal with that but hope he doesn't go any later.

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Whenismumhome · 20/11/2020 09:38

@MillieVanilla

So he did still have a very loud call from around 9pm but it stopped at 11.30. I can deal with that but hope he doesn't go any later.
I would still crack up about that too. I’d definitely take it further. Who does he think he is
MillieVanilla · 20/11/2020 17:39

I'm willing to be lenient as it stopped earlier, it was when it was going on until 1/2am that it really got on my nerves

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