Whitty comeback for being childless?

[Elouera]

DH & I have bought a large house needing renovations to live in ourselves. People walking past are always commenting, asking questions and generally wishing us well. One women asked where the babies are? I told her we dont have children. She was adament she saw a push chair on the property, asked why I denied it and didnt want to talk about them!!! I said again that we dont have children and things just havent worked out in that regard.

We have TTC 10yrs and had my 3rd MC a few months ago.

Other than saying F£@K off, its none of your buisiness, what other things would/do you say in these circumstances?

"You would be kinder not asking such personal questions as it can be upsetting" might be an option. Or perhaps "I don't want to discuss it thanks"

No one is entitled to that personal information.
Do you know how hard that is to say out loud?
Yes. We have been TTC for 2 years at this point so I am fully aware.

It is so unbelievably crass. I do wonder what these utter bellends are thinking sometimes. It's not an uncommon thing to do either.

I actually wish someone on here would explain, if they do this - as it's anonymous -I'd really like to know for real. Why pry and prod at women who don't have children in this way, given they must know not everyone who wants children can have them.

Tell her your husband is a pre-op transexual.

What age was the woman? Tell her you are desperately looking for a surrogate and stare longingly at her.

I would say you don’t want to ruin you vagina or like someone else, said you prefer anal

We have been trying for a few years to conceive so l know how hard other people’s half baked questions and theories are. It must be great just being able to pop kids out left right and centre but it’s not like for some

She sounds bat shit by the way with the pushchair / mower fixation

You = your

You poor woman I am so sorry that bitch is asking such personal questions..

My answer would be we have 10 but I lock them in the basement till their father gets home, noisy brats...

"Boarding school - they can take them at 5 now, did you know?"

Really though I'm sorry, it's a shit situation to be in. I like the "we have not been blessed" but it leaves the door open to people spouting stupid platitudes and upsetting you more.

im so sorry OP.

I think/ hope her batty insistance was a unique situation bit I guess you could have taken it away from the issue of children towards the issue of battyness:

"Why don't you think we know whether we've got a pushchair or not?"

@TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams- agree about the 'we have not been blessed' reply. I've used it twice with the following responses:

The 1st time I was told we obvioulsy didnt trust God enough!!!! (we are not religious nor church goers BTW!)

The 2nd time I said that, I was told that IVF would help!

In fact my last MC was after IVF!

DH said I should just say in a sad way that we've been trying for years but they ALL died!

Problem is that I dont think of a good comeback at the time!

Well if she mentions it again or anyone else just say something along the lines of what other pp have suggested "unfortunately we have not been lucky enough to be blessed with children yet".
Then change the subject or just laugh and ignore she'll soon stop asking.

I’ve quite liked the funny comments but they’re only good in theory. Having had my fair share of morons asking, it’s hard to think of something on the spot. I do have a prepared answer but some days it just doesn’t suit your mood. I hate then feeling angry with myself for not having a comeback. So I can’t be of any help but empathise.

My phrase is ‘it just never happened for us!’ Nothing further as it is no ones business and I’m not opening that wound up on anyone’s behalf.

Sorry for your losses.

"Sadly we've been trying but not successful yet. I was told doing it outside helps"

"We moved house to get away from them! Hope the new owners don't mind"

I'm with your dh. If someone was as rude as that woman I would probably be very blunt.
I do have dc, but also had m/c and it was after people knew about pregnancy and quite a few said things that make you
A few weeks after m/c we went to our local to try and get some normality in our social life. I'd really struggled with seeing people and having to constantly tell someone else as they congratulated me / us on pg; the landlord decided to come and sit next to me and tell me he really didn't think I should be having a drink etc as bad for the baby. Why he thought I'd been on soft drinks for months and then would suddenly be drinking I don't know, but people like to interfere.

For some people conception is very easy, they time it, give birth to healthy children and don't consider anyone else is different. In all honesty if you told her the truth, she'd just be one of those people to say "try to relax" or "go on holiday" or "have you considered adopting?".

In that particular situation I'm afraid I would have told her to piss off and mind her own business ! Not very witty!