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Why would nursery do this?

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BitchIAmFromChicago · 16/11/2020 16:08

Background
DS is almost 4. He’s been under Senco at nursery since he was about 18 months old. We were told it was for his speech so we took him to speech therapy. He’s made huge improvements and is being discharged.
Due to his speech delay and a couple of other social issues, he was referred for a paediatric assessment for ASD. He had his assessment and was discharged straight away with no further referrals needed.

He is still under senco at nursery. Last week they contacted me and said they have concerns about how he deals with bigger groups and could they organise a meeting with senco, parents and the local authority who could perhaps assist with the transition to school.

We had the meeting, and I was introduced to a woman from the complex needs team. I wasn’t told she would be there.

She has reviewed my son’s paperwork and nursery have said that he is functioning at the level of a two year old...I was gobsmacked by this as it is definitely not the case. He is fully potty trained, does not stop talking, is in control of emotions and imaginary play. He’s honestly a lovey kid to have around.

The complex needs team have also spoken to his pre-school and they’ve marked him as age appropriate in 90% of the targets.

I just don’t understand what nursery will get out of this? Why would they have him functioning so low when he clearly isn’t? I feel like I’m constantly fighting for him when there doesn’t seem to be anything to fight about!

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FourPlatinumRings · 16/11/2020 16:11

You can refuse anything SEND related. I know in schools there is funding attached for pupils with SEND and it is sometimes (wrongly) used as an excuse for poor attainment. I'm not sure what the benefit would be for a private day nursery.

nitsandwormsdodger · 16/11/2020 16:11

Maybe they were over egging his case to get seen quicker ??
Nursery staff maybe not be experienced enough and un wittingly over exaggerated?

PenguinErector · 16/11/2020 16:22

We have a similar story to yours and it continued through school - every parents evening ending with them asking permission to refer but always ended in dismissal because he presented as NT.

As he grew it became fairly evident that his social and emotional development wasn't on par with his peers and he finally received an Autism diagnosis at 12.

Now I work with children with ASN and can often spot "signs" that the parents don't so I'd let them keep at it.

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BitchIAmFromChicago · 16/11/2020 16:22

I think they get extra funding allocated for children under the senco umbrella. That’s what the woman from complex needs suggested.

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BitchIAmFromChicago · 16/11/2020 16:24

@PenguinErector that’s what scares me. That we’ll be just going round in this circle forever!

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