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Book recommendations for 3yr old please- anxieties around injury

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ChikiTIKI · 15/11/2020 22:24

Hi. My child is 3 and was attacked by a dog in the summer 😔 we went to hospital and had her injury washed and steri strips put on. Didn't need surgery thankfully.

Since then she has developed an increasing fear when she is hurt. It's not restricting her activities but once she does get hurt, she wants to hide her injury, doesn't want it looked at or treated in any way. She seems to be scared that it might lead to going back to the hospital again.

We are very reassuring when this happens. She just gets the occasional scrape or bump from falling off her scooter but she gets very upset and it takes a while to talk her down, assure her that she will be fine etc.

It dawned on me today I hadn't thought of finding books for her to read about getting injured etc. Had a look online but they were mainly books about preparing for elective surgery which didn't quite seem relevant.

Can anyone please recommend any books that might help here? Or advice about reassuring her when hurt if you have experience.

Oh and regarding dogs... She is obviously uneasy around dogs now. We see them on walks and although she comes close to us when we see them and seems nervous, she always seems happy and says it was a nice dog when they leave. She says she likes dogs on the lead and not off the lead. After the incident we didn't force the issue of discussing it but if she mentioned it, I would ask her to elaborate, help her explore her thoughts etc, rather than changing topic.

Probably crossed the line from not providing enough info and in to writing too much now sorry!

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AIMD · 16/11/2020 01:22

I can’t recommend a book about health worries or injuries. However I have a lovely book called hey warrior that explain about flight/fight response/anxiety for children. Something like that might help her understand why she feels the way she feels when she gets hurt now.

I wonder if some Play might help too. Like playing with a hospital set and see if she mentioned anything or if it triggers conversation.

minipie · 16/11/2020 01:29

The only book I can think of that may help is Maisy goes to Hospital. In it, Maisy falls off a trampoline and breaks her leg, goes to hospital, is bandaged up, stays for a bit and makes a friend and then goes home. All very undramatic really. I don’t know if that’s the sort of thing you were after?

As regards reassurance when she gets hurt... I have found it helps my DDs a lot if I talk to them in a simplified way about the biology. I tell them about how they have little soldiers in their blood who will rush to the injury and make it all better. Then you can give various details eg if they are ill then the soldiers are fighting the germs, if they have a scrape then the soldiers are building a scab (don’t undo the soldiers’ work by picking the scab!) etc. Soldiers work best when you are sleeping Wink and when you eat healthy food that helps your soldiers too. Their body is amazing and can fix itself if you give it a bit of rest and good food.

Dougt · 16/11/2020 01:42

Yes I think play is a good call.

My parents in law have a good line in this game. They buy plasters and bandages from the pound shop, and then all the soft toys take it in turns to be the patient who DD presents to them with various injuries. We also have the standard doctors kit but applying the plasters and discussing their various injuries and what caused it is the main part of the game. It can go on for hours!

Fivemoreminutes1 · 16/11/2020 06:18

Charlie and Lola - Charlie is Broken
Topsy and Tom Go To Hospital
On The Way Home by Jill Murphy

SallyTimms · 16/11/2020 06:21

There is a really nice small Usbourne book about children's events--going to the hospital, going to the dentist, going to the doctors etc, it's a small hardback book, will see if I can find a link for you, it's really useful.

SallyTimms · 16/11/2020 06:26

Usborne: The complete little book of first experiences. Dark blue cover, all short stories in one book.

ChikiTIKI · 16/11/2020 08:03

Tha k you for your thoughtful recommendations so far. We have a doctors kit and she gets it out when someone gets hurt. She hasn't got it out when she is the one hurt though. I will suggest that next time and see if it helps her talk more about things.

I will look in to the book suggestions too 🙂

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