Thanks I'm off to check out the recommendations
I'm not sure what you mean about varying the tension though?
Neither am I 
I read patterns and teaching manuals that have said there's a tension you have to make the pattern in and it reads like you can change how you knit regardless of using the needle size and yarn you're told to that affects the finished article - while I haven't learned to knit "properly" I've been knitting for years (making things that can be made with my limited skills, blankets, scarves...) and I honestly don't understand HOW a person can change what is surely their natural way of knitting.
You're right about tension, OP. That's why it's best to knit a sample swatch with the needles and yarn before starting a pattern. If your tension doesn't match, you switch to different size needles, you don't try and alter the way you knit, because that would be hard to do consistently.
See now that makes a bit more sense to me! I agree I wouldn't be able to consistently change my style of knitting
Ok just searched "gritty knitty" on kindle and no book of that name but "from gritty to knitty an illustrated beginners guide to knitting" is that it?
I only have one pair of needles and 2 balls of yarn at present I'm not looking to make anything in particular just want to see if I know the basics properly and learn how to follow a pattern so they'll be practice materials for me.
I'm having trouble getting deliveries at the moment I was also considering restarting cross stitch but when I contacted retailers too many of them use flipping Hermes to deliver who are dire and completely unreliable in my area.
Yes! Also don't know how to join in yarn! When I've made scarves/blankets they've essentially been squares that I've stitched together afterwards.
Also things like choosing yarn and needles...
So I really am a very experienced beginner 
My speed is pretty good with practice I've even managed some ribbing but anything more fancy is beyond me.
Thanks all