I’m looking to settle down. I’ve pushed many men away who wanted this with me and now I have my career sorted and feel somewhat financially secure, I would love to share day to day life with someone. I’m terrible at noticing red flags or non starters, I always give the benefit of the doubt and that has NOT served me well so far.
I’m picky in the sense that I want to feel like this people is right for me and I don’t want to just be with someone for the sake of it. But I don’t want to come home everyday to a silent dark house.
I’ve been talking to someone online. He lives near where I grew up, about 45 mins from where I am now. We’ve chatted on the phone and text and plan to meet up after lockdown. Last night he told me his last relationship was at university (he’s 35). He’s never lived with anyone. His sister is 34 and single and not had a relationship either...probably not relevant but maybe it is. His parents are together still and live nearby. I asked outright if he wanted the same things as me and he said yes when he met the right person and that he was looking forward to us meeting.
I have zero patience with men who want to just glide through life without prioritising a relationship. I get that’s not everyone’s way but it matters to me. I’m always shit at recognising red flags or non starters... so being very cautious this time.
Would you meet/date him?