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Co parenting nightmare

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Mommy273 · 12/11/2020 22:03

Just wondering if I anyone has any advice for me. I live in the UK with my son who is almost 6, and his dad lives in southern Ireland. We met in England and soon after my son was born we moved to his dads home town. He completely changed and I decided to go home and he decided to stay in Ireland. So since my son was 18months I have been a single parent with his dad living in a different country. We have never got on, he picks and chooses when he wants to talk or see him, I have never not let him. I can't talk to him about my son because he gets defensive and turns nasty He constantly tells me I am doing things wrong and putting me down. I don't want to communicate with him anymore, the things he says to me I wouldn't even dream of saying to my worst enemy. I have tried my best with him for 5 years for my sons sake and its getting to a point where I am so mentally drained from him I can't cope. Is there any legal action I can take? I want my son to have a relationship with his dad, even though his dad is unpredictable and inconsistent. But I can't communicate with him. Even with child maintenance he isnt consistent and doesn't always pay. Any advice would be great and as he lives in another country how do I go about it? I do want the best for my child but I can see that when I'm down if affects him cause I'm not my best. Thank you Smile

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lyralalala · 12/11/2020 22:06

Look into sorting your maintenance via REMO. It’s not a quick process, but Ireland are one of the countries that do take part.

RandomMess · 12/11/2020 23:12

Offer him contact on a fixed schedule that works for you and DS. Face Time once per week on x day at y time. Contact one weekend per month or half of all school holidays if more appropriate to circumstances.

If he kicks off he can take it to court who will arrange guess what, fixed contact...

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