What is wrong with me?

[yellowbeaker]

We have too much stuff in our house.....I know we do. I have been working to declutter and the bedrooms are now infinitely better! We have more space for what we actually need and space to put everything away. Brilliant........I don't seem to be able to get rid of the stuff we don't need. It is sat in a pile in the dining room. We took the crap to the tip- fine. The rest needs to be listed on FB or sent to the charity shop.......I can't do it. There is some sort of mental block in my head that won't let me. I don't want this stuff. I don't need it. It's annoying me and making mess that I want gone but I can't get past this mental block.

How do I tackle this..... I am determined to get rid of it all!

(As a side note if it helps I am waiting to see if I have adult ADHD which is why I think I am struggling with this- I have found loads of useful coping strategies for other issues that arise from this ie time keeping but I don't know how to deal with this one)

Could you get somebody else to take it away for you? Just leave all the stuff you don’t want in bags in the room and get them to take it away. That way you don’t have all the hassle of putting it on FB etc. I found that people getting things on FB often don’t turn up or want to get something for nothing and haggle and don’t like it if you don’t
reduce the price etc.

I guess I could, just feel like I should sell it and make some money. I need to do some work on my house so the money would be very useful but even that doesn't seem to be enough motivation for me to get over this. I feel like I sound mad as i type this.

Is there no family members who would help you with the listing of items, if you were to tell them you're finding it overwhelming? Its not a massively time consuming task, just repetitive and slightly dull. I would certainly help out someone with that kind of thing.

Or, if you need to do it yourself: Take photos of collections of things, rather than individual photos. Just put up posts with a multiple photos of say 10-15 things gathered together and ask people to PM you for pricing info, if they're interested in what they see.

Do you have an OH? Could this be their job and you take on something of theirs?

Also can you maybe just take it all to charity and then not give any money to charity/PTA etc for a while.

I don't think my OH would do it, his flat is way worse than my house and he will say he needs to focus on that (he won't)

I guess I could ask my dd or niece if they could list them for me. I don't understand it. I just did out a drawer in my kitchen and binned loads of stuff so I am capable of getting rid of stuff. I think you might be right that I feel a bit overwhelmed. There is so much that needs to go that I don't think I will ever get to the bottom of the pile!

Sometimes it’s easier to sort someone else’s stuff out.

But I just meant ask him to take the charity stuff to the charity shop. I may have misunderstood though.

Can you break it into groups of similar items and list one group at a time or set yourself a target of listing one item a day until you're done.

I'm autistic and I struggle with this too. For me, it's the thought of the social interaction and what if people haggle/ complain/ just generally having to deal with them.

Can you work out exactly what the issue is and find a strategy to tackle that? And then help me. I'm drowning in stuff!

@bitheby you might be right about the social interaction thing. I might list the stuff I don't want any money for and leave them outside the house on a first come first served basis and people can just swing by and take what they want. At least that would thin out the pile a bit and maybe make it a bit more manageable for me to tackle.