Is It Strange to Call Your Parents By Name?

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I was just reading another thread, and someone commented that they call their mother by name. I remember a girl in primary school would do this too and always thought that personally, it was quiet rude, but I guess her mother was okay with it so who am I to judge.

My sister will occasionally call our parents 'mother-name' or 'papa-name', but never by their name alone.

Does anyone else find it strange or know of anyone who does this?

I always called my parents by their first names. It doesn't seem odd to me. My elder brother fixed on it and I followed suit when j came along. I used to think it was strange that other people used a title rather than their parent's name, it seemed a bit like calling your parent "Ma'am" or "Captain", not very personal.

It took me ages to come around to the idea of my own dc calling me mam, until dp pointed out that if we were "dad and stompy" no one would think they were my dc. I quite like it now, though the dc use a mixture of mam/dad and mine and dp's names.

I do it to my mum when I'm having a laugh with her, dp does the same with his parents and my eldest does the same to us sometimes but never in any other circumstance. I would find it quite disrespectful.

Very odd! I call my parents mum and dad, my grandparents nan & grandad, aunties and uncles are "auntie sue" or "uncle dave"

I actually hate referring to my parents as "sue" or "dave" to other people. Like introducing them to other people. It's weird using their names.

I know I mentioned this on a thread the other day.
Our children call us by our first names. That’s what we wanted as to us it feels closer and more personal. They respect us and we respect them. I don’t know why mum would be more respectful than my name🤷🏻‍♀️

I nannied for a family for years and their eldest decided he wanted to call the parents by their names around age 9 and they were cool with it. I found it really cringe for some reason!!

It's so impersonal and to me implies an emotional detachment.

My ex husband has always called his parents by their first names - their idea. It is especially weird as he and his brother call their mum the full version of her name, but all her friends call her a shortened version that she must introduce herself as. So ex-H sounds really weird and formal.

Funnily enough he has introduced his new girlfriend to my DD by her full name, so DD calls her that, but it's become apparent that everyone else uses a short version of that too (including ex-H). So weird.

It's so impersonal and to me implies an emotional detachment.

That doesn't seem fair. Dc use whatever words their parents teach them, it doesn't mean they are detached emotionally. I love my dm very much, I just call her by her first name.

I’ve known autistic people who just can’t get their head around a person having more than one name - so will stick with the firstname
It is a bit weird in one sense that my mum for eg is grandma mum auntie and firstname depending on who you are

I don't think it's impersonal at all, surely it's more person to use a name rather than generic 'mum/dad' .