Does anyone else on here have an adult child with Oppositional Defiancy Disorder?

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My daughter is 22 and has ODD, and to be quite frank, I am struggling at the moment with her attitude and behaviour. Not only towards me but towards her boss and workplace, and to other family members.

She expects her boyfriend to do as she wants/says all the time and if he doesn't then cue a screaming and swearing tantrum from her for hours at a time, ranting about him to us. She won't listen to any advice about anything.

She never has a good word to say about anything or anyone and loves causing conflict. She jumped onto my FB status the other day and started trying to cause an argument with one of my friends who had replied on my status.

Of course we have boundaries and things we will not tolerate but when she's having a tantrum or is moaning she won't listen to reason because of her condition, and it's just very wearing and draining.

Anyone else in a similar position?

I only have professional experience with ODD, but I wonder whether the situation might be better for everyone if she lived independently. So you can continue to support your daughter with her difficulties without so much direct conflict between you?

I agree with a previous poster. Maybe, when restrictions have been lifted, it's time to talk about your daughter living independently. It must have a lot of stressful impacts on your life, and maybe she would start to digest that, in life generally, her actions have consequences that you can't be relied on to smooth over. Even if it were to present in her looking for support/ treatment from a professional. Life is going to be enormously difficult for her if she won't/can't take direction in a work setting, if nothing else.