How would you have dealt with this 3yo behaviour?

[mcgonagalscat]

DS tired. I went for a long walk with him pram this morning in hope that he might nap but he didn't. He was playing nicely just now and then started throwing his fake ice cream cart parts around his room. I told him not to, and helped him to pick them up. He then swiped at them to knock them over, picked up and tried to throw the ice cream cart, and then when I said 'NO DS' he hit me in the face a few times.

Usually if he gets tired and badly behaved I put him in his room for 3 mins to calm down and then tsk to him after, have a cuddle and all is well again. I couldn't leave him in his room today as he was throwing and shouting and destroying it. I really lost my temper after the hit me and pushed his brother over onto the wooden floor and raised my voice and pulled him to sit next to me to tidy up his toys, which he refused to do. I took his brother and went into another room. DS has knocked almost all of his toys onto the floor, but is calm now, DH has spoken to him and I'm in another room feeding baby.

How should I have handled that differently? I don't want to loose my temper like that again- it wasn't really bad but it doesn't feel like 'me' and doesn't feel right as I know he's tired, but I hate hate hate when he hits me

Put him in whatever is the most boring room in the house, not his bedroom.

Then when calmed down today up together.

It’s really hard. I don’t think there’s any harm in occasionally losing your temper, because you’re human, everyone does it when pushed. I usually talk to my kids afterwards (when everyone is calm again!) about why I lost my temper and how it’s ok to lose your temper sometimes, but the importance of not hurting other people, etc etc. I am usually pretty patient (well, in non COVID times anyway!) but sometimes my dd will push me to the extent I’ll shout. Especially if she hurts ds. And sometimes me shouting, as it’s fairly rare, is enough of a shock for her to realise her behaviour was unacceptable.

I would hav said in a stern voice 'no we don't hit its not kind' and then when he refused to help tidy up I would hav put him on him on time out until he was ready to help (giving him a way out of the situation and time to calm down).

I'd probably have picked him up and taken him to another room where I'd keep an eye on him but limit interaction for a short while.
( I'm not saying this is what should be done- just what I'd probably have done)

I should have ignored behaviour, taken him out of the room, and dealt with it when he was calmer. I can see that in retrospect. Always feel terrible after getting cross.

Don't worry I lost it yesterday, admittedly 3YO tried to push her older sister down the stairs .

I used to put ds in his room like you normally would. In your situation today I might have put him on a time out chair and made him stay on it for 3 minutes. But actually there was nothing wrong with showing him how angry he had made you. Sometimes they need to see it.

"You can help mum tidy now or you can go sit in [boring place] by yourself until mum does it." And then manhandle them there if need be.