Christmas present, change it or not?

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DD is 6. She’s asked for a particular item for Christmas, a toy. But there’s 2 colours of the toy. I asked her several times before buying which colour she wanted and she said she didn’t mind.

The toy was over £50 new so I bought it when I saw one while out shopping. It was the last one on the shelf at the shop I was in for that colour, they didn’t have any of the other colour.

DD has now announced at bedtime that she wants the other colour. The toys do exactly the same thing the only difference is the colour.

Do I take it back and try to get the other colour?

For added context; this will be DDs main present from me. Santa brings the stocking and 1 or 2 small presents (usually no more than £20 in value). She will get 1 or 2 other smaller presents from me, but has 2 families so will not go without at all (I am separated from her dad he won’t spend anywhere near £50 on her so no chance he’ll get this toy).

I don't think I'd bother

@thaegumathteth

I don't think I'd bother

Not bother changing it? That's my thinking

I think if I saw the "right" colour whilst shopping then yes I'd get it and take back the "wrong" one.

I don't think I'd do a specific trip just to swap it.

I’d get her to write a Christmas list and see if she writes the specific colour on the list. If she does I’d try to change it. If she doesn’t just don’t mention the colour again and I’m sure she’ll be so happy with the toy on the day that she won’t say she’d have preferred the other colour. Are the colours pink and blue or something else?

Maybe see if you can get the other colour first? Is it something that's sold out/in short supply? If so, you could probably sell the first one for a profit, if you get the other colour that is.

Or you could just give her the one you've bought and if she says anything at Christmas, just tell her that they only had this colour left, or that you bought it after she'd said that she didn't mind what colour she got but before she expressed a preference.

There's nothing wrong with being straight and honest like this and will help focus her mind if there is a time where she does want the gift that's hard to get hold of and she needs to be a bit more decisive or risk missing out.

My son is that age, and I'd personally say that a lot of people want that toy for Christmas, so you may only be able to get it in colour x.

I'd keep the one you have for now and keep an eye out in case you can change it to the preferred colour before Xmas.

I would try and change it but I wouldn’t take the first one back until I’d found it.

She may change her mind on what colour she wants before Christmas, so I wouldn't bother.

Nope, I wouldn’t return it personally.

There’s every chance you’ll change it and she will announce she now wants the other colour that you’ve exchanged again. I’d leave it personally.

I would have just said at the time that she would be so lucky if Santa brought her one, in either colour. It's quite easy to guide children this age but you do need to respond to their comments at the time.

Thank you everyone I’ll leave it for now and see if she mentions the colour again.