I have two DC, ds1 is a teenager, very outgoing, confident, chatty and very sociable. There's a 6 year age gap between him and ds2.
It was recently his birthday, he was showered with gifts, cards and messages, from family and friends. He also has a very close bond with his GM (mil).
It's ds2's birthday after Christmas, he is quieter, shy, not as chatty and more introvert than his brother, he never gets as many cards, gifts or messages. Some family members that send ds1 birthday cards and presents never even acknowledge ds2's birthday, he's completely forgotten by them. He's getting to the age now (9 on next birthday) where he's starting to notice these inequalities and I don't know what to do about it. Last week he was getting quite upset talking about the close bond ds1 has with his GM and that he doesn't see her as often as ds1 does.
I have mentioned it to Dh on several occasions but it falls on deaf ears, it's on his side of the family, not my side, that treats them like this and it's not fair. What can I do, if anything? About this.
Any advice appreciated