If you’ve ever flounced out in a huff

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Have you actually followed through with it? Ie stayed away for longer than a few hours?

There’s been a lingering issue with DH for several weeks now and this morning another argument just pushed me and I said that’s it, I’m packing a bag. So I did. I got in the car.

Now I’m in the car a few hours away. I could stay in a hotel tonight. I could actually do with the rest and some peace. The only thing I feel guilty about is our young DC.

I want to “teach him a lesson” in a way to show what I am saying about having had enough of being a permanent babysitter/cleaner/slave etc (it’s the argument you’ve all heard before) is real and not just an idle threat.

But I’ve never done something like this before and it feels wrong (and I’m not actually sure why because I’m a grown adult of my own free will).

I’m not in a high level locked down part of the UK by the way.

I would go back and finish the argument but I am also divorced so possibly not the best source of marital advice!

I have went off on a huffing walk and would sit down at a tree for maybe Up to an hour.
I could never leave DC no matter how hard I was getting it.
They actually used follow me to the tree

Well i will need to go back tomorrow one way or another so would hope to finish the arguement yhen but as I said it’s been rumbling for weeks so this is it coming to a head so maybe it needs me to actually follow through for him to see I really mean it when I say he needs to take action or it’s over

If you think you've over reacted. I'd go home.

If this is the same arguement for the 100th time and it's make or break. Stay in the hotel.

Careful though, he might have an easy Sunday with the kids, declare he doesn't see what the fuss is and still completely miss the point when you come home.

Well you're just making the resentful feelings worse between you. I would try and sort things out. Come home but arrange a night in a hotel for a rest officially next weekend or another time.

I am pretty sure it won’t be an easy Sunday unless a miracle occurs! Partly why I am hugely tempted by the thought of a break ...

Will he do everything that needs done and met the kids needs? Or will he put a film on, open a multi pack of crisps and maybe fill the dishwasher.

I used to have a useless bastard in my life so I'm speaking from experience here, not suggesting your life is easy at all

He’ll manage... he might (will) fluster in the mornin getting them ready and out the door but in a way that’s the point.

He’s had several leisure nights away this year connected to work and his hobby so I don’t feel guilty about him whatsoever ,

I remember feeling like that when my I just had babies. Due to lack of sleep, hormonal waves and general exhaustion I guess. Tbf DH wasn’t pulling his weight and was dismissive to my pleas.
After another pointless illogical meaningless shouting fest I grabbed my six month old baby and left. Didn’t want to bother any of my friends because I didn’t want to show anyone I was defeated.
I drove into the city and checked in the most expensive hotel I could find.

Had a lovely bath while the baby fells asleep. Ordered room service for dinner. Slept well. Took the baby downstairs and had a lovely breakfast with a great view. The thought of it still makes me smile 😊

I drove home feeling so absolutely refreshed and ready to take on the challenges again.

I also casually displayed the bill on the window ledge near his bathroom because I knew it would make him cringe 😂 😈

What did he say when you came home?

Presumably you’re still together so it wasn’t the end?

I have decided to stay away. I think I need it personally. I have my book with me and a pair of pants I threw in the bag in my flounce rage this morning, plus a notebook and pen in my car which I can use to write some of my aggravations down.
I am just worried iy might do more damage than mend?

Equally we hadn’t been making any headway anyway.

Has he called or texted you?

Roastedsaltedpeanut that sounds wonderful! I'd like to do that right now!

OP i think you are right to follow through based on everything you've said. Otherwise he will never take you seriously. Enjoy your rest and check in somewhere lovely 😍