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Divorced parents- how does Santa work?

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Santatime1 · 08/11/2020 08:42

Just that- first year separated and we can’t agree on how Santa should be done. Do you do one Santa at the house the kids are at that year or 2 Santa’s (1 at each house).

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SeasonallySnowyPeasant · 08/11/2020 08:47

Santa just brings the stocking at the end of their bed (small things to keep them busy when they wake up at 6am!). The presents under the tree are from actual people like mum and dad.

Kcar · 08/11/2020 08:49

Santa brings (brought) one big present and stockings and everything else is from people.

Whoever’s year Christmas morning it was did the big present and stocking. And paid for it.

Their dad was always crap at Christmas so I had a stocking from me every year for them with wee stuff in it which I did regardless of the Santa present.

NullcovoidNovember · 08/11/2020 08:50

I would do one house.

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toomuchfaster · 08/11/2020 08:52

Santa delivers only on Christmas morning to the house where the children are asleep, small things from him only. He will know where they are, but can add to letter if we know in advance. Everything else is under the tree from who bought it. Which tree depends on person buying it.
NB I am not divorced but had over excited grandparents that all wanted to do Santa delivery at their house, DD would have had 3 stockings! How could I possibly explain that to a 2 year old!

betrayedandwobbly · 08/11/2020 08:53

Santa delivers stocking to the bed, wherever the DC wake up.

Tree presents are labelled from the actual giver. Some could be opened European-style on Christmas Eve, or held over until a bit later if the parent wants to see them opening (but if Xmas is to alternate, then I'd have all tree presents together, and each parent gets their pleasure every other year)

TwoShades1 · 08/11/2020 08:54

We do both houses. Though big presents are always tend to be from a person rather than Santa. DP and his ex get on well enough that they will sometimes both contribute to something together. Otherwise they might get big presents from their mum and stepdad or DP and me. Seems to work perfectly well for us.

Maybe83 · 08/11/2020 08:57

We stuck to what we did together in that santa letter presents and stocking in the house that she was in on christmas eve and then the other parent bought presents to give her when she went to their house.

Generally we took the Christmas list and kept somethings back for the other parent to give.

We split the cost for santa in half. But it was never the case santa came twice he only visited the house she was in.

Flowers94 · 08/11/2020 08:57

Weve started a new thing this year that us as parents send off presents to santa and he brings them back with a few pressies off him too! This way they dont question why santa has visited mums and dads house and both parents get to do present opening

golddustwomen · 08/11/2020 08:59

We do both houses.
My dd is with me Christmas Day and her dad on Boxing Day. She has 2 Christmas days.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 08/11/2020 09:00

Santa does stocking and one tree present (mum and dad gift the rest). So if we separated then Santa would deliver the tree present and the stocking gifts to the house the child was sleeping at.

Then mum/dad would separately gift other gifts.

SoloMummy · 08/11/2020 09:19

I think that it really depends on what you did in previous years.
Unlike one of the other posters, we've always had deliveries at mutlitple homes and that's been the way since I was a child.
It's never been questioned or confused either my siblings nor our offsprings.
So I would be focussing on what you have always done and adapting it.
Personally, I think that having Santa delivering at both is best if the children will be in alternate homes for Christmas and the parents nit amicably present when gifts are opened.

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