I’ve always read mumsnet but this is the first time I’ve signed up to post.
I ended a very abusive relationship in may this year and in June I ended up getting the police involved due to his harassment and scaring me and the children. The court issued a restraining order. He broke this twice before he was sent to prison for 6 weeks. A week after he came out he broke it again and is now currently back in prison.
His mum is now causing an issue. I have had comments like you put up with it and he didn’t deserve to lose his children. (He’s not allowed to see them until he goes to court for access, however, cafcass advised that he shouldn’t be able to get access until he does domestic abuse work. This was due to me getting a prohibited steps order and a non mol through my own solicitor).
His mum rang me today to ask me if I’d told any debt companies that he is living at her address (he is living there). I told her I haven’t but the letters I’ve had here I have put return to sender does not live at this address on and sent them back. She told me that he’s had a number of debt letters there and that they’re not just his problem because we lived together. We weren’t married nor was I working the whole time we were together so the responsibility of paying bills fell to him so I don’t see how it’s my problem. She also informed me that she has a carrier bag full of my letters. I have no idea why but I’ve messaged her to ask for them.
It’s difficult because my non mol states at he cannot go through anyone to get any information about me or the kids but on the other hand she’s still their nana. It’s difficult for me because obviously she’s defending her son but I just feel like I don’t have the abuse from him anymore as he’s in prison but I now have a lighter form of it from his mum.
I don’t really know what to do