Kids seeing NRP

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My DD is nearly 16. Her dad (who I don't have contact with) invited her round tomorrow for pizza for her birthday.

I think this is against lockdown rules. He says not as he looked up and says she can go as he is her dad. However - she hasn't stayed over at his house for over 3 years - before that she and my DS went every Saturday and stayed over. There was an incident and they stopped going or speaking to him for a while. The last couple of years my DD has seen him about once every month or two (sometimes longer between), for a couple of hours at a time.

What do you think? Does this count as parental access arrangements or not?

Of course it's fine.

Yeah the government have said children can move freely between both parent’s homes so it isn’t against the rules. She’s 16 though so totally her decision.

It is within the rules. Frequency of previous visits is irrelevant.

It's within the rules. There's a specific exemption for children travelling between separated parents.

Absolutely fine within the rules

Children are specifically allowed to see separated parents. So it is within the rules.

Ok thank you.

She said she didn't want to go and had made the excuse that she might be babysitting for my younger kids - then realised there is nowhere we could be going out to! I thought it was against rules as he has no custody and no usual contact so she could get out of it that way.

What age does this go up to, that she can go to her dad's? Is it under 18s?

Ofcourse its allowed

He is her father...

Regardless if he is a good one or not

Yes its for under 18s

He only lives round the corner (literally) so I liked the phrase "travelling between separated parents" as it is 2 mins walk.

In the last lockdown she didn't go inside his house or anything, he and his girlfriend were counting themselves as a separate household to her back then (they specifically said so).

She doesnt have to go if she doesnt want to!

Of course it’s allowed; he’s her father.

Whether she wants to go is a different matter, and she shouldn’t lie to him if she doesn’t want to.

She is a people pleaser and he is a coercive controller. It's hard to say no to him. She would rather make an excuse than say she doesn't want to.