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Why don't men know how tall they are/aren't?

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GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal · 04/11/2020 22:48

Conversation with a male colleague today:

Him: you're really tall! How tall are you? About 5'10?
Me: I'm 5'7
Him: Nooooo, you're not, you're much taller than that! I'm 5'11 and you're not much shorter than me!

I'm 5'7. I know I'm 5'7, because I've been pregnant twice in recent years, and they measure your height. In fact, once I had to stand up very straight not to be measured at 5'6. Bloke in question is about an inch taller than me.

He's not the only man, I've known several do this. My DH claims to be 5'10, despite being barely taller than me. But why the fuck do they bother?! Does it not occur to them, we can instantly compare them to that handy yardstick of...ourselves??! HmmConfusedGrin

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Bwlch · 05/11/2020 08:37

Many men seem to think there is something magical about 6ft

A friend of my husband's admitted that he is 5' 11" but always says 6' because it sounds better.

Also people shrink over the course of the day. My husband noticed that his hair brushed the top of the doorframe when leaving the house in the morning but didn't in the evening. We checked and he was nearly 3/4" shorter at the end of the day than at the start.

Comefromaway · 05/11/2020 08:37

I only know my height because years ago when I was in an amateur theatre group I was measured for a costume and they told me I was just under 5 foot 4.

We think dh is about 5 foot 7 based on th fact he's a few inches taller thaan me but otherwise how would we know.

picklemewalnuts · 05/11/2020 08:38

DH has been claiming 5'10" and average height for years despite being about an inch and a half taller than me, who stretches to 5'7".

He only recently realised when I sighed and said no, you're not and never have been, because of a conversation about our 5'7" adult son.

CorianderBlues · 05/11/2020 08:46

(some) Men lie about height, penis size Grin, and income.

(some) Women lie about dress size, weight, and how healthy the kids' diet really is.

Both as bad as each other.

UnconvincingUsername · 05/11/2020 08:49

DH is 5’6. Actually his height varies depending on how much he’s slouching. If he properly stood up tall, he might even be 5’8. If he really slouches he’s 5’5.

He didn’t put a height on his tinder profile. It was pretty obvious from his photos that he’s short though. I did ask him how tall he was when I met him because he’s a very similar height to me. I thought I was 5’4 but I’m actually just under 5’6 (I measured myself to check after I met him).

My ex was about 6’. His whole family are that or more (including his mum). They all thought I was really short rather than a totally normal height. Tbh, I prefer shorter men. They’re more convenient for someone my height.

ShowOfHands · 05/11/2020 08:50

My DH is 5ft 10" and says he is 5ft 10". His siblings are shorter than him and are honest about it too.

My Dad however, was always 5ft 6" when I was growing up but he claimed he was 5ft 8". He is 5ft 3" now, possibly even smaller due to severe arthritis and a crumbling spine. He says it's worse than losing his hair and he isn't joking. Ridiculously, he came from a long line of tall, physically able men and he is nothing like any of them, chose a different profession to the accepted physical labour the family had carried out since records began and he does tie his height in with insecurity about his masculinity. His Dad was extremely old fashioned and awful to him when he was a proper flamboyant 70s rocker or a hands on, sensitive Dad. He made him feel small in every way.

TeddyIsaHe · 05/11/2020 08:53

Dp is 6ft 8 and knows his height down to the cm because he’s asked about it allllll the time. I can’t remember the last time we went out that someone didn’t comment.

I once dated a guy that was the same height as me (5ft 4) and tried to tell me he was 5 11. Why?!

Poppyismyfavourite · 05/11/2020 08:54

Haha yes somehow even my DH, who's not really insecure about physical stuff (wish I had that) is 5 ft 9. He's at most half an inch taller than me, and I am definitely 5 ft 7.5 and have been since I was 15. It even says so in my (non UK) passport.

dudsville · 05/11/2020 09:00

They are teased orjudged harshly for being short, by other men but also by women. As a woman it's acceptable to be a much broader range of heights than it is for men. I feel sorry for them.

Blobby10 · 05/11/2020 09:00

My OH swears he is 6ft tall but I'm 5ft 9 and he is only an inch taller than me. My exH swore he was 6ft 4 but is def shorter - more like 6ft 2. My middle son is nearly 6ft 7 but says he's only 6ft 6 whilst my eldest reckons he is 6ft 2 but I think is much closer to his brother! What is it with men and measurements>!!! Grin

undercoverhero74 · 05/11/2020 09:17

This is so true!!! I am 5ft 10 however almost on a daily basis men will accuse me of lying because they are 6ft and I am clearly taller than them Hmm
I have been measured numerous times for work/medical reasons so know exactly how tall I am however I am always told "you are clearly at least 6ft tall"... no mate, your just not as tall as you think 😂😂😂

Degustibusnonestdisputandem1 · 05/11/2020 09:21

Everyone seems to do this! I'm 5'9", and the number of people who say they're my height but are clearly shorter....

RishiMcRichface · 05/11/2020 09:25

My dh is 6ft and he says other men say he must be taller as they are 6ft.

Dinosauratemydaffodils · 05/11/2020 09:32

A friend of my husband's admitted that he is 5' 11" but always says 6' because it sounds better.

My dad went the opposite route. He would say 5'11 and 3 quarters which he was (in the military so plenty of medicals). Apparently knowing exactly how tall you are is wrong too!

Dh is 5'11 and has never claimed otherwise. He's also fine with the fact that in certain heels I'm taller than him. I've been accused of being 6 foot by short men who refuse to accept that barefoot, I'm most definitely not.

LifesNotEnidBlyton · 05/11/2020 09:38

It's like when they lie about the size of other anatomy. If he's trying to get a woman into bed with that line then, on the occasions it works, the woman is soon going to discover the truth. Then if she's only gone to bed with him because of it she'll probably just tell him to put it away when he whips it out. If she hasn't gone to bed with him because if that she'll now not want him because he's a liar.

Jocasta2018 · 05/11/2020 09:40

I'm 5ft so yes, everyone's a giant to me. Like A PP earlier, I don't think of myself as short, it's only in photos or if I can't reach something without a step or a ladder then I realise! I can't tell if someone's lying about their height...
The most at-ease-with-himself man I've ever met is 5ft 3 in height. He came to terms with it early on in life. as he knew he could do bugger all about it. He's intelligent, funny, superb body, excellent in bed and he's happy with himself - not arrogant but accepting that he is who he is - can't describe it properly but it's just something you feel and it makes him very attractive.
The majority of his girlfriends are taller than him - he has no worries about it. Very refreshing in a man. And very easy for me to kiss!
Sadly we wanted different things - we've remained friends & when we meet, you see women of all heights checking him out.

overwork · 05/11/2020 09:50

In my mid 20's I had a boyfriend who claimed to be 6ft. This baffled me, as my uncle and grandad claimed they were 5'10 and he was shorter than them. It left me so confused if I were ever trying to judge height, as I knew where I came up to on my BF so based it from there. Unsurprisingly, my uncle and grandad were not lying about their heights. My ex BF turned out to be lying about his height and an awful lot of other things.

JosephineDeBeauharnais · 05/11/2020 09:59

My DH doesn’t have any issues with his height (5ft 10). However, he goes on and on about how tall our 13yr old nephew is - except he isn’t. He’s a bit skinny and long limbed but not exceptionally tall. I have no idea how to respond or indeed what response he wants. He doesn’t say anything about our DS1 who is full up 6ft 1 and built with it 🤷‍♀️.

justanotherneighinparadise · 05/11/2020 10:07

I do take the piss about the fact DP lied on his dating profile and say if he’s said 5ft 11 I would never have met him 🤣. Not much gets to him but that missing one inch really seems to 🤭

Bbub · 05/11/2020 10:12

I saw a guy in one website state in his profile he was "not quite 6ft"

Which to me suggests 5ft 11.5!?

But on another site I saw him on, where you had to specify your height he'd put 5ft 8. Which looked about right as he was shorter than his mates in his pics.

Soo... I think they just lie outright or are very deluded!

Oh and DP who I met on line said he was 5ft 10. Turns out he's 5ft 7 🤔

justanotherneighinparadise · 05/11/2020 10:13

Does no one own a tape measure? Get your partners/husbands to line up against a wall and measure the gas lighting sods lol

Comefromaway · 05/11/2020 10:17

No, I don't think I have a tape measure.

Cattenberg · 05/11/2020 10:27

(some) Men lie about height, penis size grin, and income.

(some) Women lie about dress size, weight, and how healthy the kids' diet really is.

Both as bad as each other.

Don’t forget age! Women lie because some men automatically rule out women their own age. And men lie in order to attract much younger women.

I don’t know how successful the women are with this strategy, but I know the men are often rumbled within the first ten seconds of the first date.

MrsVeryTired · 05/11/2020 10:33

Absolutely, they definitely over-estimate, DP claimed to be 5ft 10/5ft 11 for years and its only now that DS has overtaken him and is actually that height that it is clear DP is not Grin

Deadringer · 05/11/2020 11:08

I agree that most men think pretend that they are taller than they are. But for some reason women tend to look taller than they are ime. My dd is 5 7, my dh is 5 8 (have measured them myself) but she looks taller than him even barefoot. I have noticed this with other people too. Maybe women tend to have longer legs or something?

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