I can’t be the only one that doesn’t open messages

[Whenismumhome]

I normally reply quite quickly.

But sometimes, I just can’t be bothered to open people’s messages - not because I dislike them or anything, but because I just can’t be bothered having a conversation.

I will open their message but I may leave it for about 5 hours before I do so.

I can’t be the only one who does this?

I always open messages but I don’t always look at things people forward on WhatsApp, especially videos. Sometimes you’re just not in the mood to converse.

All the time 🙋‍♀️ I mute group text also and catch up when I have nothing else to do

It depends. if I left it 5 hours some of my friends would be 'Are you ok?' after about 2 because they worry about me.

If I am at work i don't have my phone on me though so they know I won't reply if that's the case.

If they can see that you've opened the message but not replied they might be a bit put out-don't open it until you are going to reply?

My goodness this must be a generational thing. I would go mad if people were asking me if I was okay after ten 2 hours.

To avoid a lot of that I just turn off 'Last Seen' and 'Read notification' on Whats App.

@AdventCalender2

My goodness this must be a generational thing. I would go mad if people were asking me if I was okay after ten 2 hours.

To avoid a lot of that I just turn off 'Last Seen' and 'Read notification' on Whats App.

I don't mind them asking to be honest no need for me to 'go mad'. It's coming from a kind place after all. I am pretty good at answering messages when not at work though TBF. Come Thursday it's the only communication i will have with a lot of my friends and their message may be saying they aren't ok themselves. It's just checking in.

I choose when to open, reply or not reply to any message. The same applies to phone calls and door knocks.

I'd ignore messages asking if I'm ok too if I chose to.

I value my privacy and my right to be left alone.

I open them but I don't always apply to chatty messages. Some people write essay long texts. I'm not about that.

I feel like some sort of weirdo for actually wanting to hear from my friends now. But I am one of those strange types that answers the front door too.

I look at them when I want to. If someone's rings me and I'm busy I ignore it and call back later.

I despise how available mobile devices have made us. I’m no technophobe I was writing web pages back in the early nineties. But it’s constant sometimes.

If I don't feel like replying, I don't even open it in the first place.

If I open it, I generally reply if a reply is needed.

It's called boundaries. It's good to have some.

No notifications for anything.
I check email, voice mail and social media at my convenience, sometimes not even daily.
Work email (I'm a teacher) is checked at the start of the day, the rest of the day I'm either teaching or up to my eyeballs in supervising detentions, managing interventions or running extra curricular provision. Too busy to check email. Occasionally a colleague will ask when passing in the corridors if I've thought about X which they emailed me about in the middle of a lesson. So irritating.

It's called boundaries. It's good to have some.

Some people leave the message on blue ticked read status but never bother replying. Thats irksome. And rude. If you aren’t interested in what I have to say don’t read my messages immediately, decide it unworthy, and leave me stranded with my thought or greetings or questions by never replying.

So if I read anything I reply straight away. If i were unavailable I wouldn’t open the message at all till I am free.

I do this too, by not opening them it avoids the risk of receiving a 'why are you ignoring me' or them thinking it. I can pretend I was busy/didnt hear phone. Sometimes its because I want time to think of a response and other times its just because im feeling like I cant be bothered to reply/get into a conversation and open it once I can.

I have all the notifications turned off on my phone / iPad and just check for messages / respond a few times a day. I also keep it turned to silent. I like to be able to focus my attention without constant distractions.

I rarely open messages right away unless they're from my partner, it doesn't do me any favours really as after a while they make me feel anxious thinking about them... in real life I'm very confident and people probably think I'm being rude ignoring them when in fact I usually just lack the mental energy to engage. A day at work leaves me all "talked out"!

It sounds like some of you need to have a clearout of your contacts. Just have the friends you are interested and care about on your phone then ignore anyone else.

I have all the notifications turned off on my phone / iPad and just check for messages / respond a few times a day. I also keep it turned to silent. I like to be able to focus my attention without constant distractions.