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[Cathysaf]

I thought I'd write a little something On how I Feeling it took a long time for asr have our daughter. We had thought IVf in the end! . She out everything and everything we do for her! . When she was smaller I took her to every single play group and play date And swimming and gymnastics in parks and day trips all over the place. ! Out with cousins regularly and every fun thing I could think of to do!!. But I have found it difficult her growing up so quickly really feels like it's Flash past! For some reason Found so hard to accept how quick it has gone I'm always looking back feeling sad all the time I know I shouldn't do. There is still so much to look forward to!!. She is that nursery or preschool now 9 to 3. She really enjoying and loving it which is good I am haooy for her! I also work part time and just want her to be happy abd enjoy herself!. But I have also
stared to get depression over time flying and the fact that she may be only one. ! We have had 3 miscarriages and I've recently been diagnose with thyroid cancer but they Said it was all within the thyroid ! and it is all being removed now and it has not spread anywhere else which is really good news!! but it has also been so worrying and stressful . I have been going back-and-forth to the hospital war for over a year as they didn't seem to know it was and lots the different tests in biopsies which finally resulted in operation. Take so long months of waiting and worrying !. That from what I am understand I will be OK they said ,! I just need to have radiotherapy is a precaution to make sure nothing's left but they said this around in tissue look good in it hadn't spread anywhere. ! The sad thing about the radio therapies you can not get pregnant for over a year ! Which shouod be the last of my worrys at the moment but cant help but feel sad about it ! As I will be 40 next year . Though I'm trying to concentrate on the positives day has been cought early! Still Many different emotions at the moment I can't help but feel bitter About it all! Also scared ! And down . Don't want all of this on my mind when I am with my little girl is it makes it hard to enjoy and then I feel guilty all the time as times aways flying with her but I can't help but have all these feelings at the moment with the bad luck that we've had and I struggle to manage then I guess! Other people don't seem to have so many complications I guess and sometimes it's hard to see though it's nobody's fall ! I know you shouldn't be jealous . I love my little girl more than anything and hate feeling lime this.

Wishing you the best for your recovery.

It's natural that your emotions should be all over the place after surgery for a serious illness. Don't feel guilty if you find yourself experiencing bitterness or jealousy - acknowledge the feeling as valid, but try to counteract it with the positive thoughts you have - the excellent prognosis you have been given, and your lovely little girl.

Hello Cathy.

I've read what WitchesSpelleas has posted and agree with everything she has said.

Very best wishes to you.

@WitchesSpelleas

Wishing you the best for your recovery.

It's natural that your emotions should be all over the place after surgery for a serious illness. Don't feel guilty if you find yourself experiencing bitterness or jealousy - acknowledge the feeling as valid, but try to counteract it with the positive thoughts you have - the excellent prognosis you have been given, and your lovely little girl.

I second this.

Huge events in someone’s life like the events that have been happening to you throw up all sorts of unexpected and random thoughts and emotions because that is how the brain processes the experience.

my basic advice is feel how you feel but don’t over analyse it or give yourself a hard time about it because even when some of it isn’t nice it’s not real but also really focus on what you actually want for your life at the same time as that will keep you on track when you are feeling overwhelmed!

If things become hard or your thoughts become intrusive then get someone like the gp or someone involved. You might get want to get someone like a counsellor anyway as you have had huge things happen on top of what is already a very weird year in the world.

Just to say though even if everything had been absolutely perfect and was wonderful lots (most) parents feel like time is flying by and that they are missing out and that their child is changing too fast and they are going to miss out on important things with them but that’s life and actually each stage is important so think of it not that you miss where they where but it’s exciting to see where there going!

Excuse some of the spelling mistakes