Trying to not be too provocative with this one as genuinely want people's views on this.
When I had my DD last year a family member who I don't have the closest relationship with suddenly wanted to become best friends. We have had issues in the past although I certainly wouldn't say we didn't get on but I kept them at arms length. Anyway the next thing they wanted to babysit DD and have alone time with her. A lot of family members from my side put pressure on me to do so. I refused. It was like they wanted me out the way. It affected my relationship with other members of my family because I felt they should not have got involved. Looking back I actually feel I was gaslighted by them as they made me feel I was being over protective of my DD. I do not believe I was I had no issues with DHs side of the family looking after her as they hadn't made me feel the way I did with my own family. What particularly annoyed me was how they used their 'title' to act as if they had 'rights' to my child.
Anyway a similar thing is happening to a close friend of mine. Whereby the Grandma is demanding alone time with the baby. Despite the fact she is low contact with mum. She is constantly being hounded with messages about how she is not being allowed to see her Grandson.
I do get it's good for children to have their grandparents/aunts/uncles in their lives. My children do have good relationships with most of my family members. But what I don't get is if you don't have a good relationship with the parents. Why would you somehow think they would happily hand over their children to you.